Institutionalizing someone without even telling them will completely sever any trust. Who thought this would be a good idea?
Happened to me
Troubled teens left traumatised by tough love camps
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#22The people working at these camps should be named and shamed.
You are absolutely correct. It's the only way to make them take a long hard look at themselves.
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#23Earlier quoted context omitted.
That's awful, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Thank goodness that horrible thing was put an end to.
Thanks. I understand why my parents did what they did. I was addicted to meth and probably would’ve wound up dead without a serious intervention. Out of the frying pan, into the fire. (Clean and sober now.)
In retrospect do you believe there may be a better solution to the problems you faced then?
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#24Institutionalizing someone without even telling them will completely sever any trust. Who thought this would be a good idea?
In most cases it's parents who are at the end of their rope and feel like they have no other options. I'm not claiming they're necessarily making the right decision. It's just that they've tried everything they know how to do and see it as a last resort.
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#25The people working at these camps should be named and shamed.
You are absolutely correct. It's the only way to make them take a long hard look at themselves.
They're often backed by... entire religions that claim they're unquestionably doing the right thing in trying to save the children from eternal hell.
If only life were so simple in trying to make people feel ashamed...
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#26The "troubled teens industry" definitely has a lot of weird stuff going on. Some of the institutions are are bad-faith operations that were always scams (or worse); some were well-intentioned but were managed in a way that produced abuses nonetheless. Maybe a few actually did a good job helping out troubled kids, but it does not seem to be the norm. This is perhaps a place where internet culture has been somehow ahea…
I’ve never heard of that fornits site but I found my facility (Cross Creek) on it! The thread hasn’t been updated in over a decade and that makes sense, since last I heard it had “shut down” and been “replaced” by a “completely different” program owned and operated by the same group of people.
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#27Parents whose choices and behaviors have resulted in having raised a troubled teen make really poor choices in how they deal with their troubled teen. That’s not surprising.
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#28The people working at these camps should be named and shamed.
They should be prosecuted and sent to prison. Kidnapping and torture of children is about as wrong as it gets. Children [should] have rights too.
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#29Parents whose choices and behaviors have resulted in having raised a troubled teen make really poor choices in how they deal with their troubled teen. That’s not surprising.
A child's peer group is often at least as important as whatever their parents do. Parent have little influence on that.
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#30Earlier quoted context omitted.
You are absolutely correct. It's the only way to make them take a long hard look at themselves.
They're often backed by... entire religions that claim they're unquestionably doing the right thing in trying to save the children from eternal hell. If only life were so simple in trying to make people feel ashamed...
That is not a reason to give up though.