“Never negotiate with terrorists” is a simple and clear mantra, and as most clear and simple concepts it hides a lot of assumptions. One of them is you are ready to lose the hostage in the worst case scenario. That’s how the police sees it, because the society benefits more from being firm in individual cases than losing a few of its members that might not come back anyway. That’s a hard one to swallow, hard enough t…
From the perspective of the individual, there is no greater good than defending one’s self.
Not to go too sideways, but hostage (with humans, not data) situations are typically about other people. When you’re the target, it’s not your life on the line, but your loved/valuable ones. So you’re not defending just yourself, you actually have to care about at least someone else to have it happen to you. And some care about a lot more than just their loved ones, they’ll also think about their friends, family, sometimes the rest of the society.
Everyone is different and there is no absolute best, but let’s at least recognize it’s complex and there’s lots of ways to think about it.