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Why more women identify as sexually fluid than men

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Re: Why more women identify as sexually fluid than men

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I don't understand your meat noises

Why is identity so important to folks? I'm attracted to some people, but I don't consider this fact any part of "my identity". Does this mean that I am lacking a basic human characteristic? Most of the language in this article sounds empty, when not foreign. It seems that I'm missing out something very important, but it really doesn't "click" for me. I guess I never moved past my condescending teenager phase [0]

[0] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmKix-75dsg

Re: Why more women identify as sexually fluid than men

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Sex coach and educator Violet Turning, 24, also points out the “fetishisation” of two women having sex or making out, specifically under the male gaze. It’s made same-sexual attraction between women more socially acceptable, albeit for the wrong reasons. Meanwhile, people seem to find notions of two men having sex far less palatable. A 2019 study that looked at attitudes toward gay men and women in 23 countries found, across the board, that “gay men are disliked more than lesbian women”.

It can’t be that heterosexual men are more tolerant and accepting of bisexual women than heterosexual women are of bisexual men. Instead it has to be bad “fetishisation” that just happens to have some positive side effects because heterosexual men are not allowed to have any positive qualities.

Re: Why more women identify as sexually fluid than men

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I don't understand your meat noises Why is identity so important to folks? I'm attracted to some people, but I don't consider this fact any part of "my identity". Does this mean that I am lacking a basic human characteristic? Most of the language in this article sounds empty, when not foreign. It seems that I'm missing out something very important, but it really doesn't "click" for me. I guess I never moved past my c…

Identity is important to people who don't have a personality, so I'm not surprised by what the title of this article says.

Re: Why more women identify as sexually fluid than men

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I don't understand your meat noises Why is identity so important to folks? I'm attracted to some people, but I don't consider this fact any part of "my identity". Does this mean that I am lacking a basic human characteristic? Most of the language in this article sounds empty, when not foreign. It seems that I'm missing out something very important, but it really doesn't "click" for me. I guess I never moved past my c…

Identity is important to people who don't have a personality, so I'm not surprised by what the title of this article says.

I'm having trouble following this, can you more clearly state the point you are making?

Re: Why more women identify as sexually fluid than men

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I don't understand your meat noises Why is identity so important to folks? I'm attracted to some people, but I don't consider this fact any part of "my identity". Does this mean that I am lacking a basic human characteristic? Most of the language in this article sounds empty, when not foreign. It seems that I'm missing out something very important, but it really doesn't "click" for me. I guess I never moved past my c…

You're not missing anything, the point of these kinds of articles is to elevate sexual identity above other aspects of identity (like honesty, moral compass, skills) and sell that to people who feel listless. It's the commodification of identity.

If you're gay, it's inevitably going to be important, but that's not the point of articles like this. It's healthy to be disinterested when it's a product.

Re: Why more women identify as sexually fluid than men

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I don't understand your meat noises Why is identity so important to folks? I'm attracted to some people, but I don't consider this fact any part of "my identity". Does this mean that I am lacking a basic human characteristic? Most of the language in this article sounds empty, when not foreign. It seems that I'm missing out something very important, but it really doesn't "click" for me. I guess I never moved past my c…

The whole LGBT movement and stuff wouldn’t need to exist if people were accepting.

People aren’t. And still aren’t.

When you actively oppress people for who they are, it’s not surprising it becomes more important.

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