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Re: Rejection Sensitivity

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Post by hiram112 » Wed, Jun 02, 2021, 8:18 AM UTC

nonbirithm wrote: post #97

ricopags wrote: post #93

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Autism and ADHD both can be sources of something called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria[0] which is, in my experience, one of the most seriously socially damaging aspects of ADHD. Fairly new field of study but there is some evidence that low doses of guanfacine and clonidine can offer help. More research needs to be done, but it appears to be genetic and neurological and not, as some may intuit, sourced in trauma. [0]…

Please note that "Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria" is not a medically standardized term. It was coined by an ADHD specialist and it appears he was the only real person promoting its usage. https://psychology.stackexchange.com/questions/12583/what-is... After I discovered this I usually labeled the qualities in myself as general social anxiety, or just "being bad at making friends or social situations." I wanted to beli…

"Rejection sensitivity" is a term that has been around for decades within the psychiatric community. It used to be one of the main symptoms used to distinguish typical depression from "atypical" or neurotic depression, and patients who suffer severely from it usually do bettrr on older medications like MAOIs instead of modern SSRIs.

Interestingly, severe social anxiety will often only be helped by MAOIs.

Re: Rejection Sensitivity

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Post by archduck » Fri, Jun 11, 2021, 5:22 PM UTC

weinzierl wrote: post #12

mlang23 wrote: post #2

I find it funny that english sometimes uses german words. But "exfreund" actually implies a sexual relationship, just saying.

Yup, as German native speaker I can confirm that. You wouldn't normally use the term for someone you haven't had a romantic relationship with.

Do you feel like saying "ein Ex-Freund von mir" still carries this boyfriend connotation as opposed to "mein Ex-Freund"? The latter is clear to me, but I could see myself saying the former and thereby mistakenly suggesting a past relationship. (Non-native speaker.)

On the other hand, it's clear that "eine Ex-Freundin von mir" means ex-girlfriend.

Maybe I'll stick to "ehemaliger Freund" or just use "Kumpel" instead of Freund(-in) altogether. Otherwise people will think I've dated everyone I know.

Re: Rejection Sensitivity

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Post by weinzierl » Sun, Jun 13, 2021, 6:19 PM UTC

archduck wrote: post #102

weinzierl wrote: post #12

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Yup, as German native speaker I can confirm that. You wouldn't normally use the term for someone you haven't had a romantic relationship with.

Do you feel like saying "ein Ex-Freund von mir" still carries this boyfriend connotation as opposed to "mein Ex-Freund"? The latter is clear to me, but I could see myself saying the former and thereby mistakenly suggesting a past relationship. (Non-native speaker.) On the other hand, it's clear that "eine Ex-Freundin von mir" means ex-girlfriend. Maybe I'll stick to "ehemaliger Freund" or just use "Kumpel" instead of…

"Do you feel like saying "ein Ex-Freund von mir" still carries this boyfriend connotation"

Native-speaker, but I honestly cannot make my mind up about this.

"The latter is clear to me, but I could see myself saying the former and thereby mistakenly suggesting a past relationship. (Non-native speaker.) On the other hand, it's clear that "eine Ex-Freundin von mir" means ex-girlfriend. Maybe I'll stick to "ehemaliger Freund" or just use "Kumpel" instead of Freund(-in) altogether. Otherwise people will think I've dated everyone I know."

Hits the nail on the head. Your feeling of the language is excellent.