When we train neural networks, we don't tell them what to think and how to think about it. We mostly focus on overall structure, layers and we want useful outcomes. And yet we see lots of patterns that repeat ways in which we think.
I think if a lion could speak, we'd understand him, because we're much closer to "a speaking lion" ourselves than we realize. Our intelligence didn't just happen at the last mile between ape and humans. Our intelligence has been emerging from the simplest animal there is throughout our entire evolutionary history.
And even then we see birds, octopuses and so on use tools and solve problems very similarly to us, which have branched much earlier from us. There are many different types of minds that can evolve. But I believe the fundamentals will always be the same. They're fundamentals of information processing systems. And BTW, we know dolphins, parrots and so on can do basic math, like counting, and translating that count to another set of objects. So they understand numbers, that's what numbers are at their most basic.
We marvel at how enormous the universe is, and how varied life in it can be, how different the minds of aliens may be. But in that seemingly humble pondering, there underlies something very arrogant. We think our mind is special. We think it's unique. And other minds will think extremely differently.
I think we'll figure out sooner or later, that our mind is basically inevitable, the broad strokes will be replicated for every species throughout the universe. This doesn't mean it'll be immediately easy to figure out aliens and their culture. But those are the details, not the fundamentals.