IMHO, we probably should try to get to the point that bots/assistants are less "a thing we order around" and "a thing we communicate with", if partially because of the pretty bad vibes of "creating slaves" or being comfortable ordering such programs around, regardless of the degree we are confident we haven't accomplished computer sentience. It's just a bad pattern to be in. I recall a lot of work going into making Cortana refuse to tolerate abusive language towards it.
Maybe Google has it right with not anthropomorphizing Google Assistant and giving it a human name, but in that case LaMDA is a move in the wrong direction it seems: The conversations demonstrated emulated emotion in a way that generally speaking, most bots do not.
Is there any work on making difficult-to-gender voices for bots that still sound human? Maybe if we were to combine names that aren't traditionally given to humans with a voice that is hard to gender? Should we intentionally make bots/assistants sound more robotic, so they do not try to "sound human"?
I think it's kinda an interesting question to figure out what the best practice should be moving forwards.