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The Animal Is Tired

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Post by RhodoGSA »

rubicon33 wrote: post #110
Swizec wrote: post #90

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I suspect the confounding variable is that late 20’s/early 30’s is when most people have kids. Happiness levels improve in late 50’s when kids are out of the house. Kids may be “a complete joy and the best thing you’ve ever done”, but they’re also a huge financial burden, source of stress, and limiter on doing what you wanna do.

For the record, I (op) do not have kids. I am however married and very happy with my marriage.

lean on her more. Rely on her for comfort and if she reciprocates, it will make you feel better. You and her against the world, bonnie and clyde vibes got me through a dark time in my life.

Re: The Animal Is Tired

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Post by dimitrios1 »

Swizec wrote: post #90
Aeolun wrote: post #86

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Isn't this just caused by you leaving your 20's behind? At least for me I feel like I passed by my best years, and am only realizing it now. By 60 I certainly hope to have accepted that, but right now it's still a bit hard.

I suspect the confounding variable is that late 20’s/early 30’s is when most people have kids. Happiness levels improve in late 50’s when kids are out of the house. Kids may be “a complete joy and the best thing you’ve ever done”, but they’re also a huge financial burden, source of stress, and limiter on doing what you wanna do.

This is certainly a take.

My children, one of the greatest sources of pure, unadulterated, innocent joy, are the only reason I believe there is still good in the world and thankful that this floating rock continues to revolve around the sun so I get to enjoy them. The stress of the children and the hard work is so minuscule in comparison.

Re: The Animal Is Tired

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Post by nocman »

Oh, I was close (guessed the animal), but I was kind of expecting an article about being tired of learning new Javascript frameworks (not making that up, I honestly was expecting that).

:-D

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Post by kstrauser »

gonehome wrote: post #37
randomopining wrote: post #14

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6 miles isn’t that long lol. Exercise is good. Otherwise you get weak and shrivel up.

There’s a weird thing in the Midwest where I grew up where people talk about exercise as if it’s unhealthy (and basically nobody exercises). Then you come to the Bay Area and see just how much people can really exercise. Older people exercising here seem way healthier than where I grew up. Still when I go home if I say I run 3mi a day people say things like, “that’s bad for your knees” etc. or look at you like you’re…

That was my experience, too. I ran one leg of the Big Sur marathon relay. My local friends were like “next year you’ll do a half!” My childhood friends were like “so you never, ever have to do that again, right?”

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Post by tomlagier »

elyobo wrote: post #83
autarch wrote: post #33

Robin Hobb is one of my favorite authors. Her masterwork is a series of series (four trilogies and a quadrology) known as The Realm of the Elderlings. She published the first trilogy, which begins with Assassin's Apprentice, starting in 1995. I saw the books when they first came out and I assumed from the title and the cover that it would be a cheesy fantasy by the numbers, so I never bought it. But I kept hearing ab…

I read the Assassin's Apprentice series through, but it didn't really satisfy, and I haven't read anything else by the author. I like the Malazan ones, and ASoIF, a lot more - partly the grimdark, but more so the overall complexity of the plot. While Hobb's work was pleasant it just didn't really engage me.

I really liked the first book and parts of the 2nd and 3rd, but man the 3rd book really threw me off the series. Just a really unsatisfying way to land a trilogy - all of the stress and torment that Fitz had gone through for a couple of thousand pages across the 3 books is given just a few pages at the end, not even in-character, to pay off.

Wonderful prose but man the storytelling was a disappointment. Put me off her work completely.

Re: The Animal Is Tired

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Post by Swizec »

dimitrios1 wrote: post #142
Swizec wrote: post #90

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I suspect the confounding variable is that late 20’s/early 30’s is when most people have kids. Happiness levels improve in late 50’s when kids are out of the house. Kids may be “a complete joy and the best thing you’ve ever done”, but they’re also a huge financial burden, source of stress, and limiter on doing what you wanna do.

This is certainly a take . My children, one of the greatest sources of pure, unadulterated, innocent joy, are the only reason I believe there is still good in the world and thankful that this floating rock continues to revolve around the sun so I get to enjoy them. The stress of the children and the hard work is so minuscule in comparison.

Got a better explanation?

I think it’s possible for both to be true. That kids give you unadulterated joy and also make you objectively worse off.

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Post by stavros_ »

rubicon33 wrote: post #118
DougN7 wrote: post #29

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This actually sounds quite a bit like depression. Some inexpensive meds can make a huge difference. I know from experience.

I have tried prozac. Unfortunately, it made my tiredness even worse almost immediately. Doctor said this would go away after I increased dosage, but I couldn't stick with it long enough to see this benefit. I've considered trying again but, it's a hard pill to swallow when the solution takes weeks to work, and in the meantime, you're suffering even more. If I had to be honest, I question whether I am scientifically "…

>That, or it's some terrible undiagnosed medical condition.

Sounds like ADHD to me too. At least it's eerily similar to my experience and I'm in the process of getting diagnosed.

https://youtu.be/WFkpICWE9DM - might help.

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Post by enw »

WarOnPrivacy wrote: post #48

"Health nuts are going to feel stupid someday, lying in hospitals dying of nothing." -- Redd Foxx

There’s something very comforting about vices.

A vice is a psychological safety net. The unknown unknowns are infinite, so you can always romanticize life without them, and the effect that would have. That gives you hope, and hope is extremely powerful.

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Post by rubicon33 »

TylerE wrote: post #135
rubicon33 wrote: post #2

70? My animal is only 33 and is very tired. Writing this as it lays in bed, 3 in the afternoon, because even a standard chair sounds more exhausting to it. It seems to have no motivation or energy to do much besides lay here. If I force it, it will get stuff done but at a huge cost. It will yearn the entire time to just lay back down. It's interest in things seems to be fading quickly. What desire it used to have to…

I know others have thrown out other things, but: Have you been tested for sleep apnea? What you describe sounds much like how I used to feel.

For a while, I thought it might be sleep related too. Even though I've always gotten plenty of sleep (tracked), I wondered if the quality of that sleep was no good.

So I had a formal sleep study done (where you bring home the thing and wear it).

They found nothing wrong.

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Post by natchy »

AnimalMuppet wrote: post #7
rubicon33 wrote: post #2

70? My animal is only 33 and is very tired. Writing this as it lays in bed, 3 in the afternoon, because even a standard chair sounds more exhausting to it. It seems to have no motivation or energy to do much besides lay here. If I force it, it will get stuff done but at a huge cost. It will yearn the entire time to just lay back down. It's interest in things seems to be fading quickly. What desire it used to have to…

I think Covid made life a lot less interesting. Or, put a bit differently, I think that we quit doing a bunch of the things that made life interesting. And I think that is mentally wearing. I don't know if, in your case, that's the whole answer. You might find it worth while to seek medical advice...

Related, I was just talking about why middle/high school years seem to last longer than now. The variety of the time spent was probably a factor (Playing in the band one day, focusing on decathlon another). Life is monotonous these days.
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