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Your hobbies will lose.
Lastly, all the talk about more fulfilling lives etc. How would you know anyway? It’s not like you took both paths and then compared.
Dealing with so much poop is actually not that bad.
That’s the least dramatic part. Dating drama is exhausting. Late teenage rebellion period is exhausting. Nothing like years of effort, lectures, standards tossed out the window. Umm daughter, your boyfriends profile picture is of him sticking a can up his ass. “”He loves me!, your stupid”” For younger ones chore battles are my current stress point.
Obviously this doesn't help out older people, but for younger people debating to have kids earlier or later in life, the answer is have them earlier. I regret not spending my 20s filtering relationships by "do I want to have kids with this woman?" and breaking up immediately once I realized the answer was no.
I spent my twenties building a career, partying, and traveling, and I'd give it all back to have more time with my kids (and potentially even a few more kids.)
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What if I just don't read/watch the news every day? "Bad things" have happened as a daily occurrence for all of history - it's only now that there's an echo chamber and attention economy for this kind of trauma porn. All I'm trying to say is that "Do you want to force someone to live on a planet where things happen which are a daily occurrence on ours?" is a consideration that all of our ancestors had to consider, to…
So true. It's easy to think that our contemporary problems are somehow especially dire, but as a species our lives are incomparably better than any generation before. If you were abount to be reincarnated and could pick a decade to be born, knowing that you would be born into a random family somewhere on earth, you'd be a fool to pick any decade in the past. Today, you'd have a ~10% chance of being born into extreme…
https://www.jasonhickel.org/blog/2021/3/28/extreme-poverty-i...
It will make you a better person. There's nothing easy about it. You'll have less time for selfish things. Your self control will be challenged as you try to maintain composure in many challenging situations. Some that involve diaper blowouts at 3am, the night before a big presentation. You'll be forced to adapt as your lifestyle changes. Old friends without kids will invite you out less. You'll find new friends with…
"make you a better person" how incredibly arrogant,and I would argue having children is incredibly selfish. You are filling a need for yourself no-one else, there is nothing that couldn't be improved by less people on the planet.
But that didn't happen. We just carried on being Jason and his partner, but with a baby in tow.
I had spent most of my 30s cramming in as much "living" as possible, to make sure I'd stocked away a lifetime supply of it. After all, I'd probably never get another chance to travel for long periods, keep up with climbing, and all that other stuff that Independent Jason could do.
But it was all for naught. We just packed the kid along and went traveling anyway. He had eleven stamps in his passport by his first birthday.
Life is just as much fun as ever. But now we have some kids to play with.
It will make you a better person. There's nothing easy about it. You'll have less time for selfish things. Your self control will be challenged as you try to maintain composure in many challenging situations. Some that involve diaper blowouts at 3am, the night before a big presentation. You'll be forced to adapt as your lifestyle changes. Old friends without kids will invite you out less. You'll find new friends with…
"make you a better person" how incredibly arrogant,and I would argue having children is incredibly selfish. You are filling a need for yourself no-one else, there is nothing that couldn't be improved by less people on the planet.
Uh huh.