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A practical guide to reducing loneliness

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Re: A practical guide to reducing loneliness

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Post by throwawayboise »

FinanceAnon wrote: post #16
throwawayboise wrote: post #13

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That's how virtually every friendship starts, isn't it?

I think loneliness is something that goes deeper than how many friends you have. You can be surrounded with people and still feel lonely.

Ah well I agree with the second sentence, but having friends is different from just being around other people.

And I guess if you really have friends and still feel lonely, making more friends might not help much.

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Post by erhk »

hattmall wrote: post #18
FinanceAnon wrote: post #16

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think loneliness is something that goes deeper than how many friends you have. You can be surrounded with people and still feel lonely.

I think that's depression. I'm guessing these tips are more for the technically lonely, which is probably a much higher number in the past due to WFH and quarantines.

It's also having shallow friendships

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Post by amelius »

542458 wrote: post #3
napolux wrote: post #2

If you are, like me, tired of Medium... https://archive.is/wip/UJQq2

Dumb question, what’s wrong with Medium (as a platform)? Also that link doesn’t work for me - server not found.

It's basically YouTube for written content, but with a paywall.

Re: A practical guide to reducing loneliness

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Post by tombrossman »

542458 wrote: post #3
napolux wrote: post #2

If you are, like me, tired of Medium... https://archive.is/wip/UJQq2

Dumb question, what’s wrong with Medium (as a platform)? Also that link doesn’t work for me - server not found.

> Also that link doesn’t work for me - server not found.

Are you using Cloudflare DNS? Related discussion here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19828317

Re: A practical guide to reducing loneliness

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Post by joeyphoen »

FinanceAnon wrote: post #12

Very superficial advice. I don't see how small-talk with strangers can fix loneliness long term.

I totally hear you, although for me having a positive human interaction, even if it's just saying hey to the barista, or sharing an idle observation with a stranger while sitting in a park or at a beach somewhere, always brightens my day. It sounds so damn cliche, I know, but it's undeniable.

Re: A practical guide to reducing loneliness

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Post by csdtx »

Loneliness comes from a lack of community and people who you can trust. You will not build a community and find people who you can trust through small talk and involving yourself in groups that are based on transient interests that can be changed in an instant. There is a reason gangs and groups have some sort of hazing and acceptance ceremony.

Re: A practical guide to reducing loneliness

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Post by antibuddy »

coldtea wrote: post #17
thrownawatsfdf wrote: post #4

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Yeah, because ordering off Amazon and being hooked to your phone is so modern and 2021...

I mean I kind of understand what he is saying (altho in an inappropriate way). It is likely for your own good to minimize screentime. However most people are still using their phone when bored. So you're either annoying people "glued to their screen" or you are the only one without doing it which yields you not much.

It's a bit boring, but I think both points are valid. If you are not looking up you probably miss the opportunity, but opportunities are still very slim.

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