Thanks your position is much more clear to me now.
Why the aversion to complaining? Sometimes things are bad and need changing, and sometimes all you can do is complain. There's a certain alure to saying "don't like it don't use it" and that being the end of it, but at the same time it doesn't acknowledge the fact that these concerns might be legitimate, and sure, something else can always be worse, but that doesn't really address the issues at hand.
The alternative to what the internet is now isn't no internet, change for the better is possible.
There are real structural issues with how the internet is de facto to most people, these are issues of power, governance and capital, turning your back on them doesn't make them go away. I understand why people can feel immense frustration at the current state of the internet (and perhaps the world in general) without making the drastic step to restructure their life around avoiding a utility most of the world runs on.