How can you tell if someone is lying?
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How can you tell if someone is lying?
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#2Archived version: https://archive.is/9d6iG
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#3I can't recommend Talking to Strangers enough. We have a crippling inability of people to read strangers correctly. In addition to amazing testimony and evidence, great case studies, the production quality of the audiobook is like a good podcast.
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#4Two thoughts:
1) If law enforcement ever has the time, they might want to play Maffia or Werewolf. Playing those games enough makes you realize how idiosyncratic lying can be.
2) I'm glad to know that my lecture on lying when I studied psychology basically had the same conclusions as this article.
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#5If you liked this you might like Embassytown
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#6I can't recommend Talking to Strangers enough. We have a crippling inability of people to read strangers correctly. In addition to amazing testimony and evidence, great case studies, the production quality of the audiobook is like a good podcast.
I'll also recommend the actual talking to strangers meetups, though I assume they're on hold due to plague.
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#7Any time I talk to someone about this evidence it's always "yeah, most people suck at telling liars, but I'm good at it."
Lake Wobegon effect for people reading.
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#8Most policemen aren't really learning state of the art stuff. It's institutional knowledge passed down over time. So they're likely to be far behind the truth. They likely usually don't have the tools necessary¹ to even understand these studies since they are not taught how.
This manifests in hard to prove stuff like this, but also obviously in things like when facial recognition or shot spotter tech is used. Scientists and engineers comprehend the limitations of these tools, but the users here are similar to prehistoric man before the monolith. The tools are magic to them and they rely on them like they are magical truths.
This isn't particularly changeable. So for those who build for these users, it's important to guide them to the right truths and express the right uncertainties.
¹ After all, even the most basic adversarial analysis would be that people are aware of the "eyes averted" nonsense and would subsequently compensate. As a matter of fact, almost anyone who believes in this stuff also believes they can dodge detection because they know these secret truths that everyone knows.
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#9The only way to lie effectively (if you are committed to lying, which IMO is not a good longterm strategy) is to commit to the lie 100% and then believe it yourself.
For example, if you want to lie about where you were, you have to believe yourself that you were there. If you consciously think you are lying, it won’t work. It’s like forming a new truth and then fully accepting that reality.
Many years ago I worked at a Dominos pizza with a pathological liar. It was so obvious everything he said was false, and he couldn’t stop himself from lying about literally everything. That is not effective lying. Effective lying is believable.
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#10I can't recommend Talking to Strangers enough. We have a crippling inability of people to read strangers correctly. In addition to amazing testimony and evidence, great case studies, the production quality of the audiobook is like a good podcast.
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