Myths About Introverts
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Myths About Introverts
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#2The definition of introvert is already so vague it's hard to take this seriously.
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#3original, slightly more detailed article: http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts
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#4This list is taken from this article: http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts
which is based on the guy reading this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Introvert-Advantage-Thrive-Extrovert-W...
I read the book myself recently, and I can highly recommend it if you feel that you sit anywhere on the introvert spectrum.
It covers the "science" behind introversion, how introverts vs. extroverts think and respond to stimuli and neurochemicals. (I put science in quotes as I don't know enough about the brain to know how scientific the discussion is but I found it useful and interesting nonetheless).
It then goes on to look at how this affects introverts' interactions with themselves, others, and in social situations - with some thoughts and guidance on how to better integrate into an "extroverted world" without just trying to be more extroverted.
I have definitely found it helpful and it's made me think a lot about who I am and how I react to life as an introvert.
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#5Pretty much describe me, and I consider myself an introvert.
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#6Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest.
Yes, this is often called being rude. It may be true that by this guys definition introverts don't mean to be rude, but if a person (introvert or otherwise) acts as described above, that is rude.
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#7Myth #6 describes me. I prefer authentic one on one connections rather than spreading myself "too thin". I think that's a problem w/ people with too many friends. Having too many friends is good but it also means you can't be great friends to all of them.
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#8Myth #3 – Introverts are rude. Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Yes, this is often called being rude. It may be true that by this guys definition introverts don't mean to be rude, but if a person (introvert or otherwise) acts as described above, that is rude.
If we're going to keep to narrow introvert/extrovert definitions here, then to an extrovert only is that rude. Personally I find small talk and social pleasantries little more than a way to waste time and pretend you care more than you really do. I rely on the pretty sensible concept that if someone has anything important to tell me, they'll come out with it.
Besides, the internet is wonderful for me because social niceties have faded. You don't get forum posts with 5 lines of social waffle, you get people just cutting to the chase. Think just-go-ahead-and-say-it IRC.
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#9Myth #3 – Introverts are rude. Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Yes, this is often called being rude. It may be true that by this guys definition introverts don't mean to be rude, but if a person (introvert or otherwise) acts as described above, that is rude.
Actually, you'll find that in some places, it isn't rude to be straightforward and honest. And even blunt. You have to actually start insulting people to be considered 'rude' in those places.
Introverts like those places.
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#10Here's a myth held by introverts. Introverts (rightly) believe that extroverts don't understand them, but they don't understand extroverts as well as they think they do. Case in point, the commonly held belief on HN that extroverts mostly BS their way through life while the introverts are doing the real work. In reality we introverts probably don't understand how incredibly nuanced seemingly superficial relationships and conversations can be.