I'm not an expert, but if 51% of the existing hashpower doesn't want a change, it sounds less a 51% attack and more like miners voting against something that isn't in their interest. The whole point of blockchains is that the incentives are supposed to be aligned between miners and users. If that isn't the case here, it sounds like a problem.
If this were obviously true, there wouldn't be a problem. I think a better formulation talks about distributed ledgers working better when the interests of users and miners are aligned.
And of course they never quite are (miners want profit, users want minimal transaction costs with high security).