Ask HN: Alternatives to Suicide?

I am struggling with my mental health, to the point I really need a radical change, which I’m not fit to properly decide at the moment.

My problem is that I’m not mentally fit to work anymore. I’m depressed, suffer from post-covid brain fog, and I’m really stressed and tired. But at the same time I can’t live with my parents because at their home is where my mental health deteriorates the most. I’m not rich to just leave my work and live on my own.

I’m considering either becoming a monk or committing a minor crime just to get in prison and don’t live there anymore. Any suggestion is welcome because my brain is not working as it should.

Some alternatives in no particular order:

- exercise can improve your mood and self confidence. Be sure to not compare yourself to those already fit

- medication can be helpful. It really depends so you should consult a doctor.

- counseling is helpful. It might take a few tries to find someone who clicks though

I think it’s important not to compare yourself to others. Focus on yourself and celebrate small wins.

First off, start looking at depression as a biochemical/hormonal imbalance in your body. Next, with this in mind, start looking for a cure. Will leaving the house more often help? Maybe, but not likely. What about antidepressants? Yes, that has a higher probability. For me, what got me off depression permanently after struggling for years was Testosterone Replacement Therapy.

I have always had the intuition that my testosterone levels were not high.

If you need to talk to someone ASAP please call the suicide prevention hotline: 1-800-273-8255

If you have healthcare, please try to connect with a psychologist or other form of councilor. They can help, though it sometimes can take a few tries to find one you click with.

Mental health is tricky. I can offer ideas, but it’s hard to know what will help you. Throwing various ideas out there:

Exercise helps.

If you’re not getting enough sleep get more. Meds can help in the short term if your mental health is interfering with sleep. You can also look into melatonin (helps for some) if it’s falling asleep (vs staying asleep).

You can try various meditation apps as well as activities that let you get out or at least people watch (nature walk, hanging out at a busier park/cafe, etc.)

Would a more hands on activity or screen free hobby help? Maybe volunteering at an animal shelter, or other similar org.

I’m not sure where you are located or your finances but are there absolutely no other housing options? (Shelter, friend, Airbnb room).

Would a short getaway help? Camping is cheap if that’s your thing.