> An abstraction/simplification/shorthand is not a lie."Multiplication is repeated addition" is not "an abstraction/simplification/shorthand". Doing that for multiplication would be saying something like "multiplication is a distinct primitive operation, but it works like repeated addition for whole numbers, so that's what we'll be learning how to do now." Is that really so hard?
> Is it a "lie" to teach kids just learning chess that queens are worth more than any other piece and you should always protect your queen, even though there are advanced situations when it makes sense to sacrifice your queen for no immediate material gain?
If you tell them everything you just said, no, you're not lying. But if you just tell them "always protect your queen", without explaining anything about why and without saying that there are some advanced situations where you might break this rule, yes, you're lying. It only takes a couple of sentences to add that extra information. Again, is that really so hard?
> In this specific case, introducing the ideas of "operations" and "counting numbers" into the picture muddies the waters, most kids who are just learning multiplication won't have any idea what you mean by those concepts.
Um, what? We're assuming they already know about addition of whole numbers. So it is simple to tell them "this addition thing that you learned, that's an example of an operation", and "those whole number thingies that you learned how to add, those are numbers". Once more, is that really so hard?