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Why are fewer young adults having casual sex?

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Re: Why are fewer young adults having casual sex?

#11
ok so I skimmed through the article to try to find information on where the data came from. Did I happen to miss this?

Something I am curious about is the people they interviewed were they in more puritanical areas or did they gather data from a larger geographic area?

Speaking from experience and discussions with my friends (obviously the last year does not count due to Covid)... this is the opposite if what I have seen regardless of gender, sexual orientation, and relationship status. Obviously something can be said for my friend circle likely having similar ideals that I have which makes it more complicated.

That being said I am also in a big city.

Re: Why are fewer young adults having casual sex?

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I wonder if there's a connection to obesity, and the increase of obesity in young adults.

See: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5621592/

> Not all social influences are positive, however, and overweight young adults in particular are susceptible to the negative effects of weight-related bias [76]. Data indicate that overweight young adults are judged by others to be less likable [77] and less suitable sexual partners [78]—even when those making judgments are overweight themselves [77, 79]. Further, perceived weight-related social control has been linked to body dissatisfaction, low self-esteem, and infrequent physical activity among young adults, particularly when this social pressure to lose weight stems from their parents [80].

and: https://oatext.com/Adolescent-obesity-and-its-implications-f...

Re: Why are fewer young adults having casual sex?

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We came of age in an era when HIV / AIDS was finally acknowledged and taken seriously by society, and recognized as something that could affect anybody.

I think the attention placed on STDs during our Sex Ed classes may have something to do with it. Learning about the horrible things that could happen to you through casual sex (with grotesque accompanying photos!) was a major part of our curriculum. And we were taught that condoms may not protect you. So I think there is some innate fear and shame embedded here.

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Historically causal sex was rare, and it could be that the recent increase in this was an aberration, and people are just going back to the way it used to be done.

This line: "On the other hand, sexual inactivity may hinder young adults’ psychosocial development and diminish their physical and emotional gratification (Julian 2018)." is just bizzare. People have done without casual sex for most of human history, I think the young people will be just fine without it.

Re: Why are fewer young adults having casual sex?

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I think it is due to the misconception of an over abundance of choice. The apps trick us into believing that there is always someone better at the next swipe. So instead of having random hook ups, it could be that people are always waiting for the perfect, and thus having less casual sex.

Dating apps suggest that a small group are having more sex and a larger group less sex.

It’s the distribution of sex, not the amount.

Technology has enabled the upper echelons of desirable men to sleep with many desirable women, and those down the pecking order are content with porn/toys, instead of settling for anyone other than the prized upper echelon.

It’s not just the technology but the social change that resulted from technology

Re: Why are fewer young adults having casual sex?

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The answers, from the abstract seem to be "young people" are living at home more, drinking less and gaming more than they used to. "Among young women, the decline in the frequency of drinking alcohol explains about one quarter of the drop in the propensity to have casual sex. Among young men, declines in drinking frequency, an increase in computer gaming, and the growing percentage who coreside with their parents all…

Personal anecdote: when I was single in a big city, I stayed at home playing games on Saturday because I had no social group with single people in it and no place to hang out other than a bar.

Bar culture always sucked (and still sucks) and I wasn't pretty enough for Tinder. The music scene I was involved with was fading out and I wasn't part of the core clique anyway.

Would I have liked to go out and meet people to have casual sex with? You bet I would have. But it was such a chore to even put myself in a position where such a thing was even a possibility (make new friends who hosted parties and invited single friends? go out and take nicer photos for a dating site?), that it seemed like it wasn't worth the effort.

The flipside is that, while I was at a 4-year university with a nice campus, the setup for making connections for casual sex was a lot better. But I also was a lot more willing to put myself in weird grimy situations, so I don't know if it's a fair comparison.

Moral: beware the direction of causality. Some people aren't having casual sex because they are gaming. Other people are gaming because they aren't having casual sex, whether it's by choice or for lack of opportunity.

Re: Why are fewer young adults having casual sex?

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I think it is due to the misconception of an over abundance of choice. The apps trick us into believing that there is always someone better at the next swipe. So instead of having random hook ups, it could be that people are always waiting for the perfect, and thus having less casual sex.

Apps that enable random hookups discourage people from random hookups? Doesn't sound plausible.

Re: Why are fewer young adults having casual sex?

#20
My theory, that no one wants to talk about, is that dating apps have sped up hypergamy. (Note: talking statistically on a population level..this is not every person)

Before an average guy used to be able to get a date without a problem, but now the bar is set much higher for a male, due to quick and easy access for women to dates via technology. (This in reverse applies to men less so because men are polygamous not hypergamous by nature and by definition are the pursuers and have less standards.).

So there's less casual sex as a whole because a small group of people are having more casual sex.

This is evidenced by stats from the above article and by numerous studies on dating sites that shows a small pool of men having much more success with women.

Also, anecdotally as an admittedly non Brad Pitt average guy.. if you've ever compared your dating apps to an average woman friend...it's insane the contrast.

Much like the economy that is also bifurcating and has a shrinking middle class... this reflected on the dating market as well.

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