I'm sorry but I completely disagree with the folks that are saying to just shave it off and that the "only person worrying about your hair is you". That is completely untrue, especially in our society today. I just turned 23 and have been dealing with this issue since I was 20 years old. It's an absolute nightmare. Even on hair-loss medications, there is no maintaining. Being a relatively above-average individual in…
Just want to chime in that when I was 23 I got no attention from women (mostly on dating apps). Now I'm 30 and the attention I get has skyrocketed. I'm losing hair too - I've got the Bernie Sanders look going haha - so I think that there's a strong age component in there.
Just wanted to throw that out there because I was seriously dejected a few years ago over this, but things have gotten better and better as I've gotten older.
Excuse me for the slight off-topic, but in regards to hair: has anyone noticed that people are shaving their heads randomly more during the pandemic? Maybe just boredom. Or a desire to self-actualize during the lockdown. What a weird way for humanity to react to a crisis. I did it too.
I think the reason is quite simple (it was for me): The alternatives are to let your hair grow wild, go to the barber and risk getting COVID, or have someone in your family trim it with the risk of looking terrible.
Alternatively, plan ahead and marry a hairdresser ;)
It's always a sad to read the comment section when discussing male attractiveness; so many people with learned helplessness. Being attractive is 3 traits: physical fitness, grooming, and sociability. The first two are easy 1. Find a sport and hit the gym. There is a sport out there you will enjoy (racket sports, team sports, martial arts, running, rock climbing). As a creature, you are meant to be active and without…
It’s really cruel to talk about how important barbers and haircuts in a thread full of guys who are insecure about their hair.
I'm in my 50's and have a full head of luxurious hair, with almost no gray. I don't say this to brag, but rather the opposite, it has never helped me in any way to attract women. In fact, if I let it grow out it looks terrible because I just look like an old man with young man's hair. Very disconcerting in the mirror. I guess my message is...hair doesn't matter as much as people are led to believe. Teeth on the other…
> pearly whites teeth
I blame ads like colgate for this, natural teeth have yellowish hue.
I'm overlooking the "teeth" part of this story to share a bit of an anecdote here. I'm a guy, and I lost my hair when I was about 21. I spent a while trying every medication (many of which have sexual health side effects), but I don't think I was ever actually happy until I just accepted that I was bald and that was just part of how I looked. Don't get me wrong — I would love having hair again, but it doesn't bother…
I still remember the day I saw a quote on Twitter from an account that I think was called something like @PicardQuotes. Their tweets were usually little gems that could have been said by Capt. Picard. This particular quote was simply: "Bald is better than balding." When I realised there was no turning back, and not having hair would be a lot better than fighting against the inevitable, I started wearing my bare scalp…
I love the way I look bald, but I don't have the wherewithall to keep my skin smooth. It's so much more work than just keeping a decent haircut.
> If it helps anyone else out there: no one else thinks about your hair besides you. I mean, kinda. Sure, nobody is probably stressing about how many centimeters your scalp is receding, but you can bet lots of people will be more attracted to someone who looks young with a full head of hair compared to someone who has typical male pattern baldness. Just google "male hair restoration before and after" for some example…
There's a running joke on the wsb subreddit about this, about the return that Elon saw in getting his hair fixed (I can't find the specific phrasing and construct of the joke at the moment), but anyway his transformation is fairly notable and there's no doubt it contributed in some part to his success: https://thenewdaily.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/07/elon-m... I wish it were not true, but I think it sadly is, th…
Oh dear. He does look better with hair. I'm sure it's nice to say "No one cares about your hairloss other than you". But I don't think any metric in society would back that up.
I'm overlooking the "teeth" part of this story to share a bit of an anecdote here. I'm a guy, and I lost my hair when I was about 21. I spent a while trying every medication (many of which have sexual health side effects), but I don't think I was ever actually happy until I just accepted that I was bald and that was just part of how I looked. Don't get me wrong — I would love having hair again, but it doesn't bother…
I think there are cultural (racial?) aspects too. I'm East Asian. Hair loss at a young age and shaving your head is still not considered very acceptable or attractive in any way in East Asian cultures, short of being a monk. There are a tiny handful of exceptions - but that's just that - exceptions. If you're pushing 50? 60? etc. sure it happens to many so not a big deal - but even then I think more East Asian men ch…
I never thought of this till you mentioned it, like, never. But you are right, I can't think of any high-visibility East Asian person with a bald head that isn't a monk. Xi Jianping, Mao, Psy, Jack Ma and pretty much every prominent East-Asian has hair. I guess with me coming from the black community, we've always had Michael Jordan, Isaac Hayes and Samuel L. Jackson as the standard-bearers of baldness.
It's always a sad to read the comment section when discussing male attractiveness; so many people with learned helplessness. Being attractive is 3 traits: physical fitness, grooming, and sociability. The first two are easy 1. Find a sport and hit the gym. There is a sport out there you will enjoy (racket sports, team sports, martial arts, running, rock climbing). As a creature, you are meant to be active and without…
It’s really cruel to talk about how important barbers and haircuts in a thread full of guys who are insecure about their hair.
Most bald guys have hair just not that much on the top. Shaping the remaining hair in a fashionable way is imperative. Looking like George Carlin in his later years with long unkempt hair on the sides and a bald spot on the top is not sexy.
I'm sorry but I completely disagree with the folks that are saying to just shave it off and that the "only person worrying about your hair is you". That is completely untrue, especially in our society today. I just turned 23 and have been dealing with this issue since I was 20 years old. It's an absolute nightmare. Even on hair-loss medications, there is no maintaining. Being a relatively above-average individual in…
Just want to chime in that when I was 23 I got no attention from women (mostly on dating apps). Now I'm 30 and the attention I get has skyrocketed. I'm losing hair too - I've got the Bernie Sanders look going haha - so I think that there's a strong age component in there. Just wanted to throw that out there because I was seriously dejected a few years ago over this, but things have gotten better and better as I've go…
Yeah I think this is a general truth (and it’s the inverse for women, where it starts easy and gets a little harder).
Early twenties dating for men is hard, particularly in a skewed place like the bay area.
If I had to guess it’d be about status (young men are pretty low status) and age preferences. If women generally prefer someone a couple years older, the ones that might be interested in you are in college when you’re 22 so are not really in the same dating market.