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The unusual ways Western parents raise children

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Re: The unusual ways Western parents raise children

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Post by andi999 »

AndrewUnmuted wrote: post #16
swader999 wrote: post #5

We put the crib close to our bed, much easier for mom. Dad got ear plugs.

It's funny, human mothers have a unique trait through which they can identify the cries of their particular child, even at a playground where a lot of kids are making noise. Somehow, mothers are able to cut through all the din and identify the voice of their young child, at the exclusion of all others. Nature does so much to bring mothers closer to their young, yet fathers do not possess this "talent." In fact, we se…

Any sources? At least my experience tells differently.

Re: The unusual ways Western parents raise children

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Post by TomK32 »

diegocg wrote: post #24

>A 2016 review that looked at research on children sharing not just a room but a bed with one or more of their parents found a high prevalence in many Asian countries: Let me guess: there is a high correlation between sharing your room and poverty levels?

30 percent of British children are living in poverty. https://cpag.org.uk/child-poverty/child-poverty-facts-and-fi...

Re: The unusual ways Western parents raise children

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Post by otabdeveloper4 »

TomK32 wrote: post #20
minikites wrote: post #11

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Hitting a child is abuse and it's not effective.

As a parent you are simply betraying the unconditional love and trust your child has in you.

So what is the child betraying when he/she hits the parent?

Re: The unusual ways Western parents raise children

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Post by nomdep »

itsmemattchung wrote: post #17

Definitely something that my wife and I struggle with. She's Vietnamese British, I'm Vietnamese American ; both of us current living in the U.S. Despite what our training classes recommend, we're co-sleeping with our 17 month year old daughter and it feels more intuitive.

So - if you don't mind the question, sorry for asking if you do - how/when you have sex?

Re: The unusual ways Western parents raise children

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Post by easton »

vehemenz wrote: post #19
minikites wrote: post #11

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Hitting a child is abuse and it's not effective.

Hitting is abuse only if it's frequent and the child becomes fearful of it, but this is not nearly as sexy as hijacking the word "abuse" self-righteously.

Isn’t the whole point of hitting your kids to make them fear it and therefore not do whatever it is that made it happen? (whether or not this works or wouldn’t be accomplished in a more humane way is a different story)

Re: The unusual ways Western parents raise children

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Post by dagw »

AndrewUnmuted wrote: post #16
swader999 wrote: post #5

We put the crib close to our bed, much easier for mom. Dad got ear plugs.

It's funny, human mothers have a unique trait through which they can identify the cries of their particular child, even at a playground where a lot of kids are making noise. Somehow, mothers are able to cut through all the din and identify the voice of their young child, at the exclusion of all others. Nature does so much to bring mothers closer to their young, yet fathers do not possess this "talent." In fact, we se…

human mothers have a unique trait through which they can identify the cries of their particular child, even at a playground where a lot of kids are making noise.

That has nothing to do with being a mother and everything to do with spending a lot of time with that child. I'll bet that anybody who spends enough time with a child will be able to do that, regardless of that persons gender or genetic relation to the child.

Re: The unusual ways Western parents raise children

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Post by SamoyedFurFluff »

matz1 wrote: post #23
minikites wrote: post #11

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Hitting a child is abuse and it's not effective.

It is not abuse, if it used for the kids own good. Yes it is not always effective but in some case it is.

From what I understand physical violence towards children has been universally panned on research.

https://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/04/spanking

Re: The unusual ways Western parents raise children

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Post by jokethrowaway »

rapsey wrote: post #14

Western culture is different in a significant way. Individualism is valued much more than in the east. This is an established sociological fact.

While what you say is true, I think it's debatable whether this is reflected in our childcare practices.

Re: The unusual ways Western parents raise children

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Post by blarg1 »

rapsey wrote: post #14

Western culture is different in a significant way. Individualism is valued much more than in the east. This is an established sociological fact.

Funny the next article after this one is actually about that.

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20201231-how-the-way-you-...

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Post by killtimeatwork »

DC1350 wrote: post #18

Your kid doesn’t need their own room. In fact, neither do you. Everyone could live so much more carbon efficiently if we accepted communal living. Like dorm rooms. People all around the world rent small apartments with their extended families, and sometimes even other families. The only reason people in the west believe they need a single family home is because they’re entitled and have a weird focus on individualism…

People want their own space because there's a fair share of assholes which ruin the common grounds for everyone else. That's why dorms common kitchens are always filthy, or people are willing to commute a long way from their own house just to avoid noisy neighbors that are part of living in a downtown apartments.
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