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Re: I Miss My Bar

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Post by globular-toast »

_uwiz wrote: post #71
globular-toast wrote: post #63

When I see stuff like this it reminds me just how different I am to many people. It feels like I'm an alien trying to understand a new civilisation. I used to go to "bars" and the like, but it was only to meet women and get laid. Now that I've secured the means to reproduction I don't have to force myself through that hell any more. Sites like this suggest there is something attractive about such places even if you t…

When I see comments like this it reminds me just how different I am to many people. It feels like I'm an alien trying to understand a new civilisation. I used to have "sex" and the like, but it was only to experience certain transmitters firing in my brain. Now that I've discovered my right hand I don't have to force myself through that hell any more. Comments like this suggest there is something attractive about suc…

Good for you. Finding happiness that works for you and the rest of society is the most important thing there is. I tried a way of life similar to yours for many years, but I always found before long I would want sex with a real person. Also that person has to want to have sex with me. It can't be overtly a business transaction.

You are very, very lucky to have been able to find true happiness alone. You'll always have yourself and you won't be responsible for anyone else or have to worry about them. Some people might look down upon on you because you're not "doing your part" or something, but remember Stockholm syndrome is a real thing and you don't owe anyone anything.

Re: I Miss My Bar

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Post by 74d-fe6-2c6 »

wayanon wrote: post #29

I gave up booze in Dec 2019 as a (temporary?) experiment so lockdown has been helpful for me as I don’t have to not drink with friends in bars. But I know lots of people miss it and I hate seeing business owners in trouble.

I'm drinking more since the lockdown. Not excessive by any means but about a bottle (.5l) of beer every day and sometimes a small glass of scotch.

It makes it easier to draw a line between work and leisure time. The alcohol signals to me and my brain that now it's time for some relaxed activities ... well, youtube, netflix, mubi, reading (hacker)news.

Re: I Miss My Bar

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Post by Nursie »

globular-toast wrote: post #63

When I see stuff like this it reminds me just how different I am to many people. It feels like I'm an alien trying to understand a new civilisation. I used to go to "bars" and the like, but it was only to meet women and get laid. Now that I've secured the means to reproduction I don't have to force myself through that hell any more. Sites like this suggest there is something attractive about such places even if you t…

> suggest there is something attractive about such places even if you take the sex away.

Erm, you don't just like going to a pub or a bar with friends? Even if you don't, lots of people do. Perhaps what's different about you is that you assume your own tastes are universal... actually that's all too common with humans!

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Post by 74d-fe6-2c6 »

forgotmypw17 wrote: post #7
underseacables wrote: post #4

I miss being spontaneous about going out. I’m not even sure what restaurants are still open, what bars have gone out of business, why can’t we return to normal already?

It's a great opportunity for non-commercial spontaneity, choosing not between "what bar to go to", but which direction to walk in, and really taking in reality.

Legally, though, in solitude. In Germany only one person can officially visit another household. I think that is excessive bullshit which is why I do break this rule occasionally.

Re: I Miss My Bar

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Post by Nursie »

_uwiz wrote: post #57
tinus_hn wrote: post #54

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Same in the Netherlands and any restriction introduced for whatever reason is forever. For instance, when bars had to close at 22:00, people would flood the supermarkets to get booze for drinking at home. So they made a rule that supermarkets can’t sell alcohol after 20:00. Now the bars have been closed for 3 months. Think anyone would remove that now useless limitation on selling alcohol after 20:00? Think again!

UK Government 2020: It seems that most people are catching coronavirus in private homes. makes pubs shit to be in with distancing rules and masks etc people start to socialise at home more It seems that most people are catching coronavirus in private homes. closes pubs earlier people start to socialise at home more It seems that most people are catching coronavirus in private homes. close everything else, make meetin…

Socialising inside a home was restricted pretty early. Those socialising at home are breaking the law, it's just not something that can be enforced very easily.

Our government demonstrably is this incompetent. Not just on coronavirus.

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Post by LandR »

forgotmypw17 wrote: post #7
underseacables wrote: post #4

I miss being spontaneous about going out. I’m not even sure what restaurants are still open, what bars have gone out of business, why can’t we return to normal already?

It's a great opportunity for non-commercial spontaneity, choosing not between "what bar to go to", but which direction to walk in, and really taking in reality.

In my country, the UK, you can be fined for going a walk to a park if it isn't the closest park to your home. Basically if the police want to be arses to you they can ask you where you are going and why you are where you are, if they dont like your answer you can be fined.

There was an article in the BBC a while back about two friends that met up for a walk in the country side, they drove to the meetup point. It wasn't the closest place they could have walked so they got fined.

Also IIRC, they were carrying a cup of coffee each so the police said technically they met for a picnic.

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Post by Nursie »

_uwiz wrote: post #62
3np wrote: post #35

Earlier quoted context omitted.

In some countries, you're even forbidden from having visitors in your home.

Yep, the UK went full authoritarian pretty much straight out of the gate, it's been illegal for me to have anyone in my house for 97 days now (and was also illegal or heavily restricted a number of times before that)

> Yep, the UK went full authoritarian pretty much straight out of the gate

We really didn't. Had we done that, we may have succeeded in controlling this thing. Instead what happened was too little, too late, over and over again the government shut the stable door after the horse bolted.

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Post by lmm »

AltruisticGap2 wrote: post #66
_uwiz wrote: post #50

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Different countries, and different situations. Living in a big old house in the country with your family? Your life is probably basically the same as it always was. Potentially better, depending on the work situation. Okay, sure, you're not going on as many holidays, and depending on how strict the rules are where you are, dinner parties are off the cards. Living in a flat as a single person in the big exciting city?…

I understand your sentiment but for me the realization is different. For me seeing the streets of my capital city completely empty at beginning of lockdown, as well as the trams and buses (even though you could ride them), made me realize that I was living in an environment that is fundamentally not pleasant. That it was people that made it alive. Without people, I saw that this city which I always thought of as "the…

Wasn't that something we all knew already? People are what make cities worth living in, the point of living in a city is to be close to more people, and that naturally involves some compromises (though I'm all for non-grey buildings and minimising the space devoted to cars - something my city is fairly good at).

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Post by _uwiz »

Nursie wrote: post #87
_uwiz wrote: post #62

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Yep, the UK went full authoritarian pretty much straight out of the gate, it's been illegal for me to have anyone in my house for 97 days now (and was also illegal or heavily restricted a number of times before that)

> Yep, the UK went full authoritarian pretty much straight out of the gate We really didn't. Had we done that, we may have succeeded in controlling this thing. Instead what happened was too little, too late, over and over again the government shut the stable door after the horse bolted.

edit: Nah, I'd rather we go back in time and not normalize draconian, authoritarian restrictions on everyday life.

Re: I Miss My Bar

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Post by dep_b »

For a second I thought the title was about a developer that bought an M1 MacBook Air and realised he or she liked the Touch Bar after all.
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