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Post by _uwiz »

globular-toast wrote: post #63

When I see stuff like this it reminds me just how different I am to many people. It feels like I'm an alien trying to understand a new civilisation. I used to go to "bars" and the like, but it was only to meet women and get laid. Now that I've secured the means to reproduction I don't have to force myself through that hell any more. Sites like this suggest there is something attractive about such places even if you t…

When I see comments like this it reminds me just how different I am to many people. It feels like I'm an alien trying to understand a new civilisation.

I used to have "sex" and the like, but it was only to experience certain transmitters firing in my brain. Now that I've discovered my right hand I don't have to force myself through that hell any more. Comments like this suggest there is something attractive about such acts even if you take the pleasurable transmitters away. I'm so happy, happier than I've ever been, that I don't have to interact with another human ever again.

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Post by kashyapc »

RalfWausE wrote: post #31

I think the psychological toll of the lockdowns in different countries is highly underestimated. I myself have no real economical shortcomings due to the lockdown, but even as a person who is normaly a total loner and who can spend weeks completely alone on a excessive hiking trip i am slowly going crazy... For my wife, who is a highly social character, its even worse. And i am not the only one in this mindset... wha…

I live in a small and wonderful city-town in Western EU. Unsurprisingly, much of the atmosphere is in doldrums. As a long-time remotee, I'm often used to working from the library or a pleasant coffee shop. It's tough not to have this access to the gentle human buzz around me, or a stranger's smile, much as I'm used to long stretches of solitude. And this extended lockdown has aggravated the ability to deal with a recent personal setback.

It helps that I built a healthy lifestyle, and have no problems giving structure to my attention. Long walks in nature, hours of dedicated reading of offline books (the medicine of the mind) help immensely. And my studies in areas like ancient Greek philosophy, psychology, neuroscience all help, and continue to provide some relief. But it's strenuous to keep grinding through it, without access to much of humanity, in the normal sense. So far, it's been a potent stress-test of resilience.

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Post by Nursie »

_uwiz wrote: post #50
RalfWausE wrote: post #31

I think the psychological toll of the lockdowns in different countries is highly underestimated. I myself have no real economical shortcomings due to the lockdown, but even as a person who is normaly a total loner and who can spend weeks completely alone on a excessive hiking trip i am slowly going crazy... For my wife, who is a highly social character, its even worse. And i am not the only one in this mindset... wha…

Different countries, and different situations. Living in a big old house in the country with your family? Your life is probably basically the same as it always was. Potentially better, depending on the work situation. Okay, sure, you're not going on as many holidays, and depending on how strict the rules are where you are, dinner parties are off the cards. Living in a flat as a single person in the big exciting city?…

I'm in between the two groups. I live with my partner in a mid-sized house in the centre of a small city.

Financially I'm doing great, I've worked throughout and there's literally nothing to spend the money on. My mental health is starting to deteriorate though. I'm not sleeping well most nights, I've turned very much inwards, I feel angry and despairing a lot.

Part of the current problem is that we don't have a timetable. There is no plan. There isn't even a set of criteria around which a plan could be built.

I don't agree that this is "a risk aversion play" here in the UK though - we have well over 100k people dead from this disease, hospitals beyond capacity and all sorts. Cancer treatments being pushed out, causing more death down the line. I don't think you can say that trying to control the spread is unwarranted.

Poorly communicated, yes. Mishandled, screwed up, too little, too late every time, yes. But unfortunately necessary to stop it just getting worse.

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Post by 74d-fe6-2c6 »

Doctor_Fegg wrote: post #60
possiblelion wrote: post #37

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Estonia is a better option. Bars and restaurants are open, all without a bloody dictator.

Also the highest Covid rate in Europe right now, I believe?

My s/o is Estonian. The thing is - yes, rates are high - but ... that's about it. There is not much going on beyond incidence rates being high. Which makes me question the panic.

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Post by WalterGR »

bmn__ wrote: post #43
WalterGR wrote: post #32

On mobile Chrome on iPhone, adjusting the sliders doesn’t seem to have any effect. I must be missing something?

Use the play buttons. They look like a triangle pointing to the right.

I’m familiar with play buttons.

Adjusting the sliders does nothing, such as changing the playlist. What am I missing?

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Post by LandR »

_uwiz wrote: post #50
RalfWausE wrote: post #31

I think the psychological toll of the lockdowns in different countries is highly underestimated. I myself have no real economical shortcomings due to the lockdown, but even as a person who is normaly a total loner and who can spend weeks completely alone on a excessive hiking trip i am slowly going crazy... For my wife, who is a highly social character, its even worse. And i am not the only one in this mindset... wha…

Different countries, and different situations. Living in a big old house in the country with your family? Your life is probably basically the same as it always was. Potentially better, depending on the work situation. Okay, sure, you're not going on as many holidays, and depending on how strict the rules are where you are, dinner parties are off the cards. Living in a flat as a single person in the big exciting city?…

Also my city feels much more dangerous now. PReviously with loads of people always milling around I would feel safe walking around alone at 2-4am going home from bars.

Now it can feel pretty dodgy as soon as its dark in the city centre. No one has any reason to be there so the junkies, homeless and others have seemingly gotten more brave.

I was in the city centre around 9-10pm a little while ago and it was almost 100% drunk / high / homeless looking at me really weirdly and got approached by a couple in a semi-aggresive way.

That had never happened to me in the five years I've lived here previously.

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Post by 74d-fe6-2c6 »

possiblelion wrote: post #37
_uwiz wrote: post #17

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The way things are going at the moment, I'll have to emigrate to somewhere "sane" like Belarus in order to even meet another person.

Estonia is a better option. Bars and restaurants are open, all without a bloody dictator.

Give EKRE a few more years ...

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Post by Nursie »

tomcooks wrote: post #19

Maybe it's the rural setup where I'm from, but I'm glad that in 2020 and 2021 I barely visited bars. Summer was spent by lakes and forests, drinking beers, cocktails, appetizers, and eating freshly grilled BBQ for a fraction of the price, having quality time in the sun with friends. I don't miss commercial society, I don't miss their tropes and their rituals. Fake friendship and banter from people hanging around to g…

> having quality time in the sun with friends.

Here in the UK we're not really even allowed to see friends outside.

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Post by Glawen »

wayanon wrote: post #29

I gave up booze in Dec 2019 as a (temporary?) experiment so lockdown has been helpful for me as I don’t have to not drink with friends in bars. But I know lots of people miss it and I hate seeing business owners in trouble.

never really understood this severance. You can drink without getting drunk. I like to drink good beverages, but I don't like being drunk, so I just take a few glasses.

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Post by keyle »

This is very interesting but I picture the image of sitting alone in a bar, which is not the kind of thing I'd want to picture.

Meaning, all this stuff I usually try to tune off or ignore when I am(was) out.

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