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Re: Deleting Facebook permanently

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Am I the only one who only used/uses IRC? Back in '92 I started using IRC as my primary "group chat/social platform", and ICQ for IM's among closer friends. I stayed on IRC for a very long time, and grew-older with the same circle. It was nice. It was personal. I know people in that group that got married. Time passed, people moved on; had families, etc. I've tried a few other platforms like facebook, but they all se…

I continue to use IRC with friends I've known for 20+ years. Some of my IRC groups have migrated to Discord or Slack, but IRC is still on in the background.

You've touched on a fundamental point that G+ was trying to get across with "circles." I'm a member of probably 20 different groups across various messaging platforms. These are tight little communities with a lot of trust. It isn't that we all agree politically or anything, but we trust each other to be kind, consistent, and not too spammy. Anyway, I think small groups in WhatsApp, Discord, Slack, IRC, etc.. are the present and future of good social interactions.

Re: Deleting Facebook permanently

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I am 28 and none of my peers is using FB anymore. I have some older friends that do their yearly christmas party invite on FB and some people who chat with me on FB messenger. There primarily are ads, spam, people posting commercial content and people congratulating each other for their birthdays. Is facebook this dead for anyone else?

I'm 23 and I use it for memes, groups (photography, cars), local events, and keeping up with some of my less 'close' family members (as in, it's the only reasonable means I have of contacting them). I occasionally post some of my photography projects so my grandparents can see them. FB Marketplace is leagues better than Craigslist and I have sold several items on it. Don't get me wrong, I hate facebook, but if used m…

I am OLD - I had FB when it was a private, university-only, and people were giving out their dorm buildings and rooms.

My FB was becoming a ghost town 5 years ago, so I stopped using it, then deleted my "real" profile. I maintain a shell account now for Marketplace, Groups, and Messenger. I have the "light" apps on my phone with all requested permissions denied.

Marketplace SUCKS from a usability perspective, but it's become equally as active than CL in my area.

Groups are a goldmine of information - my neighborhood has one that is active, I have an active one for my model vehicle, and there are B/S/T groups that are nice, as well. Groups have effectively killed the old Forums/Bulletin Boards.

Messenger is required if you want to buy/sell, etc. I don't use it for anything useful.

Re: Deleting Facebook permanently

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Deleted FB, Insta and Snap a little over four years ago... It was revealing how many friends I actually had compared to how many I thought I had. Surprising as well how much I don't miss it.

Social networks love to throw around the term "friend" as though all the kinds of relationships it denotes are the same. Clearly, it isn't. There are people I know from mailing lists and newsgroups and fora who are my acquaintances, even though we've never met in meatspace. I have cried over their deaths and been happy at news of their joys. There are people I remember from tens of years and thousands of miles away,…

Your mention of mailing lists/fora/newsgroups made me wonder about how easy it is for people today to forge those same (non-"friends", but still) close relationships with strangers today. I definitely remember those close bonds with other internet users in the 1990s and early millennium.

However, today due to everyone moving to Facebook and other content silos with a mobile app, independent website forums are severely hollowing out. On some of the forums about various hobbies that I follow, the most active posters left are often extremely curmudgeonly elderly people, and if they hail from very polarized countries they are quick to descend into political rants to the point that they do little on-topic posting. Facebook isn’t a satisfying place for friendship due to the feeds and algorithms, and independent forums can now be high-stress environments. Consequently, the internet feels like a more lonely place than before.

Re: Deleting Facebook permanently

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Giving up emails or phone numbers can be risky since someone else might take it and do something unpleasant with it. Facebook accounts cannot be taken that way.

When I was younger, a friend created a Facebook account in my name as a joke. My facebook-using parents found it and became very panicked that someone was stealing my identity. I now have a minimal facebook account that I log in twice a year to keep a current photo. It's like how businesses have to squat their own domain names on TLDs they don't use.

Some years ago my daughter set up a fake account with my name and friended a bunch of people from my old high school. When I found out I changed the password and have ignored it since.

I now have a real account just for my gaming group and my old account occasionally pops up in my suggested friends list.

Re: Deleting Facebook permanently

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I'm 30 and my social circle as well as myself regularly use FB, Instagram, and FB Messenger.

FB main platform I'll use for events and, most importantly, Groups. I have been overall quite impressed with the communities in the FB Groups (of course some are better than others).

For example I've been a huge fan of the Streets of Rage series; SOR4 came out last year, 25 years after the previous release. The Streets of Rage 4 facebook group has been an absolute godsend. Very active community, tons of expert players posting videos, very easy to find people to play with, funny memes, the works. The SOR4 discord is hit and miss and reddit is too much of a message board and isn't so active. FB Group is light years ahead of any other community for this game that I've found.

I've also joined groups for The Office, Futurama, etc (all of have dozens of different groups, each tailored slightly differently). I laugh at anyone who says all they see on their feed is people posting bullshit, vitriol, and misinformation. That is a YOU problem, not a FB problem. My feed is filled with relevant updates from friends, as well as a constant stream of The Office/Futurama/Streets of Rage 4. Exactly how I want it.

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But aren't all those youngsters using instagram (which is relatively more 'intellectually demeaning' IMO, and still owned by Facebook)?

At this point I feel like instagram is only popular because there is a generation who can't/won't read anymore. We are slowly turning into degenerates. Maybe Idiocracy was right after all.

I wouldn't say that it is a generation that can't read, rather I would word it as a generation that cannot write. The death of long-form text in user-created content on the web came largely from people starting to use their mobile phone as their primary device. A touch keyboard just isn’t as inviting a tool for expressing thoughts at length as a computer keyboard.

Re: Deleting Facebook permanently

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It's odd to me that people make such a big deal about Facebook, relative to other platforms. When I log on to Facebook I see some old friends having pretty banal conversations. It's not very compelling and it's definitely not threatening.

Twitter, on the other hand, is both compelling and threatening. It draws me in and sucks up far too much of my time. And when I've waded into controversial waters I've been met with hordes of strangers calling me names, making fun of my appearance, and even in one case emailing my employer in an effort to materially harm me for disagreeing on the internet.

Nothing like that has ever happened to me on Facebook.

Between Facebook and Twitter I find the latter both far more threatening and, because it's also actually compelling, far more difficult to leave.

Facebook is a zero by comparison.

Re: Deleting Facebook permanently

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Pretty much everyone under 25 seems to be on Discord

I only use Discord for a very specific group interaction. How is it used more generally?

When the group becomes your community, a server acts as a sort of "home" with mostly familiar people talking about a wide range of topics.

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Hi, I use SpaceHey because my friend An made it as a throwback to 2005-2008 MySpace and it is taking off like no other. It is slow right now because he's getting an influx of something like 5k users a day from the viralness of it. How will it not be overrun by bots and unsavory characters? We don't know. It's not a corporation backed platform. It's literally an 18 year old developer who pined for a simpler time that…

How will SpaceHey support itself?

There's a shop you can buy things to support it. I also plan to host the social network on my cloud hosting platform and if I have to help foot the bill, I will.
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