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The issue isn't with the user's email. The issue is with the site's email provider. If the email server sending out the one time links is under heavy load or for some reason has a backlog, it may take a while for the links to actually get to the user. This usually happens because whatever service the site is using to handle sending out emails is under heavy load, having issues, or is rate limiting the site due to a s…
> The issue isn't with the user's email. The issue is with the site's email provider. If the email server sending out the one time links is under heavy load or for some reason has a backlog, it may take a while for the links to actually get to the user That is not completely true. I've been operating my own mail server for almost a decade, since I am the only person using it the volume of email I send out is almost n…
I'm not sure what all goes into ~~the algorithm~~ that google uses to decide to tarpit emails from a server but I'd make sure that you have your SPF, DKIM, and DMARC all set up properly to give google as little of an excuse to dislike your server as possible.
It's not a great solution but I've long since given up on any attempt at self-hosting email and just use my own domain with protonmail at this point since the industry seems to be so hostile to self-hosting.