Earlier quoted context omitted.
Gaslighting is about undermining someone’s perception of what is going on, and then using that to manipulate them. Telling the parent that the GP is not making an argument that they are plainly making , looks like an attempt at gaslighting. I did read what you said. It would be valid if the GP hadn’t written what I quoted. The parent was responding reasonably to what was written, and you seemed to be trying to persua…
The need to turn differences in reading and opinion into a no holds barred psychological fight is genuinely toxic. You and I have read the same post differently, and your attempt to villainize me as a gasligther is not something that should be accepted in polite conversation. Knock it off. Furthermore, if you're going to accuse someone of gaslighting, then do everyone the favor of actually paraphrasing their argument…
I agree. That’s why I think it’s a bad idea to tell someone that something they are responding to isn’t present. Avoiding bulverism is a good step to avoid bringing things into the psychological realm. Knock it off!
I get that you have a different understanding which is reasonable, but that can be expressed without telling someone they are misunderstanding.
“If you're going to accuse someone of gaslighting, then do everyone the favor of actually paraphrasing their arguments correctly.”
I didn’t paraphrase anyone’s arguments. I copied and pasted. Unless you have edited your comment in the meantime, what I said you said is literally a copy and paste from your comment.
I also didn’t accuse you - I asked if you were doing it, because that’s what it looked like. I see a lot of casual gaslighting of this kind in public discussions.
The GP clearly is arguing that Scandinavian counties are run better. They are also arguing that NZ is run better than most of the US, and that the US is more poorly run than other countries.
You read the GP’s comment through the concept of a ‘core’ argument, which excludes some parts of what the GP said as simply examples. I think the parent reasonably doesn’t use that concept, and sees more than one argument being made.