I feel exactly the same, I've been learning a second language and it's nothing like learning programming, in fact arguably the opposite, I've found that obsessing over grammar is almost detrimental to making progress with a new language.
The confident students who aren't concerned with getting all the specifics of grammar exactly perfect are the ones that are making the most progress toward being conversational, they're able to express themselves and actually have something resembling a conversation, despite using the wrong prepositions here and there or conjugating verbs wrong sometimes. The more "academically" minded students who obsess over getting the grammar correct like a math equation are still struggling to form even basic sentences outside of solving homework problems on a piece of paper. I've noticed that I've been making much better progress now that I've been focusing on just trying to express myself even if I'm making mistakes.
Which is obviously the complete opposite of using a programming language.