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The author knows they can legally answer yes, but is considering whether it is worth it to answer yes.
Usually calling yourself disabled means you get lots of advantages over normal people so why not?
> You appear to be asking a closed question, but ‘consider’ is a word I would use to open up a question. Forms are full of such questions, presenting themselves as straightforward logic gates, which on closer inspection turn out to be impossibly multivalent. This is actually a huge problem, particularly in the age of computer systems. If the form is electronic and not designed properly, you can't even leave a note. S…
What's an example of when a form would want to take in a seemingly invalid email address?
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Interesting, thanks for the stats. I guess the trick is getting the GP referral in the first place. I am pretty sure as a normal-seeming adult, if I asked for an ASD assessment, my GP would be extremely reluctant. I would have to be very insistent. I'm fairly certain I have Asperger's or some flavor of ASD, and I have found it a real struggle trying to get an actual diagnosis. I even paid for private treatment, but m…
Also you might want to be careful with this; my experience is that once you have any kind of mental record on your file, your GP will try to say every physical problem is all in your head. If there’s no compelling reason to get the diagnosis, sometimes it’s better not to have one.
Excellent question. As a person with ADHD (but on meds), and a possible CFS, I ask myself this sometimes. While I wouldn't use a disabled parking spot , there are some exceptions from social norms that I allow myself: - segregating trash (keeping an apartament clean and organised is crazy difficult by itself, and I still learn to put things into trash after using, at the age of 36) - getting a sitting space in a crow…
>segregating trash Aha, unexpectedly relatable. That's an allowance I give myself as well. I segregate a bit, but give myself a pass after a certain amount, when it makes the difference between living in squalor and not.
Another ADHD compromise: I don't use the "eco" soaps (e.g. sugar surfactants) because, their remains are easily feeding algae (the orange one) and I, realistically, won't clean my shower every week. (Hope less than a week isn't considered the normal XD)
Honestly, I feel it's really important for ADHD people to allow themselves feeling a little disabled: We mostly endured so much misguided anger and being called lazy and such, it's healing to give ourselves that break. We're literally killing ourselves (life expectancy; suicide) over keeping up with an outside almost mechanical and estranged to human "nature". It's okay to search for our own pace and only comply with what's obligatory and possible.
(Not saying therapy and medication aren't necessary; not that it's all down to modern life.)
Excellent question. As a person with ADHD (but on meds), and a possible CFS, I ask myself this sometimes. While I wouldn't use a disabled parking spot , there are some exceptions from social norms that I allow myself: - segregating trash (keeping an apartament clean and organised is crazy difficult by itself, and I still learn to put things into trash after using, at the age of 36) - getting a sitting space in a crow…
> Since that time I always have doubt whether to point out to someone that they took a disabled parking spot. The way I handle it now is by asking someone who leaves a car, who doesn't look disabled, if they need some help (instead of pointing out that they are assholes). If they are indeed disabled, they won't mind, if they aren't - they feel like assholes :) You should just stop bothering because it’s really not yo…
Superficially yes, but if there's no enforcement then the accommodations do not serve their original purpose.
There are employers are asking this question? What purpose does such a question even serve? Sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen even to ask.
They need to know in case they need to make adjustments in the workplace. Or more often, to make sure you don't get hired because you're likely to be more troublesome than healthier candidates :/
Likewise flummoxed by the equivalent “race” question almost always asked on the innumerable forms you’re subjected to in the USA. In the country I was born in there was one correct answer for me (though the question was rarely asked); later that changed. In my mother’s country the legally determined answer is printed on your ID card, which at least removed the need to think about it. In the USA there is a very differ…
The reason those questions are asked is so there can be accountability when (for example) white supremacists try to hire only white people. That portion of the application is typically visible to HR but not the hiring manager. So, counterintuitively, the orgs with the forms asking all the probing questions about your skin color are more likely to be making an effort to not be a boring homogeneous mass of people. Mayb…
We all have several “labeled” roles or identities simultaneously: parent, child, driver, citizen, voter, customer, etc. Some are simple, some quite complex and many quite ambiguous.
I think most, if not all people understand the motivation for such questions and I hope most people understand that those questions are well intended. I also don’t know of a different way to handle the issue.
But it’s not a criticism to point out the problems and ambiguities that arise.
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If there's a write-in option for "race" on these things, I'd recommend putting "human".
Oh, definitely "Jedi". ;)
The Harry Potter books mix this same trope in with a dash of Kipling as they look down upon and try to be paternal towards the mass of “Muggles”. Revolting!
Not something I would be willing to support, myself. Though its popularity might explain (be a symptom of perhaps) the support for certain political parties around the globe.
I think this is a pretty good writeup on how disabilities are dealt with in society. For myself, I'm bipolar. I've had significant difficult my entire life but I didn't know why until recently. Being bipolar has a severe impact on every aspect of my life. In relation to work, it's just painful. I need accommodations to handle a 40-hour work week. I need a regular schedule. I can't be on-call during the night because…
My suggestion is to determine how your brain works, whether it is visual in nature, auditory or other. The mind is the last frontier of health and medical professionals frequently mis-diagnose. Don't accept your "bipolar" label until you understand yourself how your mind works. See https://www.newscientist.com/article/2083706-my-minds-eye-is... .
This came up for me a few years ago when I was filling out a job application. At the voluntary self disclosure stage it listed epilepsy among the list and it stopped me in my tracks. A few brain surgeries later and I'm no longer epileptic, but it did make me ask this exact question. For several years, my onset with in 2012 at age 36, I considered it more of a bummer and inconvenience and never thought about it any ot…
I had to break it to a teen with epilepsy whose goal in life was to be a pilot, "The FAA medical will reject you, but maybe you can work in an FBO or other aviation business." (He wasn't interested in flying a desk.) In aviation, anything related to loss of consciousness (LoC) is automatically disqualifying. You can get a special issuance for most other health problems (cancer, high blood pressure, sometimes diabetes…