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Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

#211

Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…

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Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Well, let's see. My wife left me shortly before the pandemic started. I tried leaning on alleged friends for emotional support and they bailed on me. I don't have any family here in the US. The pandemic hit and I had to stop practicing my sport. My work output has been 10-20% of what it used to be even though I don't have kids to deal with, or any of the things that are driving folks crazy. It takes me around 2h to m…

Get a dog or three.

This is questionable advice to someone who’s struggling. A dog is a lot of work, which might be great if it motivates someone. And a dog is a fantastic companion, I know that this past few months would have been a lot more difficult for me without my pup. But they’re living beings, they deserve to be brought into homes where their care is assured. You don’t just “get” a dog. It’s a commitment and a lot like caring for a person. It can also be that rewarding. But a dog isn’t something you go pick up at the store on a lark to feel better.

As a person who’s now glad to have a pup: go spend time with a dog or three. Take your friends’ or neighbors’ dogs out for a while and see if you feel like the company is beneficial and if you want that responsibility. If you do, awesome! If you like the hangouts and don’t want one of your own, awesome! If it’s not for you, now you know but you tried a thing and that’s awesome too!

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

#213

Well, let's see. My wife left me shortly before the pandemic started. I tried leaning on alleged friends for emotional support and they bailed on me. I don't have any family here in the US. The pandemic hit and I had to stop practicing my sport. My work output has been 10-20% of what it used to be even though I don't have kids to deal with, or any of the things that are driving folks crazy. It takes me around 2h to m…

You are not alone.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

#215
I empathize with the isolated rats in the university of Texas study on isolation and addiction https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2013/01/130123165040.h.... I’m not abusing substances, but I can tell that my isolated brain is acting differently than it does when I had daily social interactions in person.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

#216

Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…

Just some experiences of mine, I had been really stressful when trying to get a job, long time ago. And eventually I started the jogging at the time. To me, it's like sort of hedge, if I got my job later, I got a heathier body due to more work out. In other words, the destiny is not going to screw me up on both sides :)

Actually, I kept on jogging even after I got the job later, I don't know why but that does make you feel a bit better about life.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

#217

Yes. I started a new job (software engineering again) at the start of the pandemic. I feel like I burned a bridge with my manager prior to leaving so ... I won't be able to return to that company in the future. Haven't really spoken to anyone outside of work (tiny company, too) since March. Left to my own devices at work. Haven't seen anyone in person since April. Spend most of my days online and alone. Attempted sui…

Hey Bro, If you want someone to talk/help, please let me know.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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post #195

Meta note: 4819 votes on the poll and 152 points on HN. I'm surprised that only 3% of people that vote on the poll are upvoting the story.

Like I'm going to tell a random website that I'm depressed, and now they have my IP address and browser fingerprint and probably cross-indexed it to my real identity and tomorrow will be selling it to marketers?

Edit: Oops I read your comment backwards. Yeah that is suprising. My guess would be that this has gone viral beyond HN.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

#219

I badly need my three year old to be in kindergarten so my wife can have six hours a day of just one child and possibly claim back part of our house and energy levels from the abyss. I'm counting the days to next September.

God - we are all in the same boat. I have a 4.5 and a 1.5 year old. I can work 2-3 hours in the morning and then I have to push all my work to late evening and I stay up till 1 am completing before waking up early to help with cleaning, cooking, and then caring for the kids.

Can't wait for daycare and montessori to re-open :(

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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I feel you, myself I have two toddlers (2, 4) that was a life change for me. Responsibility, scream, lack of sleep, inability to what I used to do to get some energy boost. Which escalated during working from home. No advice from my side, as I haven't found any good way. Take care,

6 and 3 year old. I feel bad about comments like this. Kids are the greatest gift and I cherish every second with them. Getting to spend more time at home with them has been a god send. I feel like so much of this comes from a lack of control when people feel (for some reason) like they should be able to "control" their kids. Maybe let go of the control thing and just enjoy your time with them?

We are not talking about control here (two toddlers - 1.5 and 4.5 here). We are talking about diaper changes, cooking, feeding, putting to bed, online classes, entertaining them because they can't be outside with kids their own age, tantrums, and usual baby stuff. Doing work full-time and taking care of babies full-time is leading to a lot of depression and loss of concentration on the work-front.
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