I initially thought this was about the site strawpoll.me. On a side note why does the caption above the chart says 'Advertisement' ?
Ask HN: Are you depressed?
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Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?
#202Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. To be blunt, it sounds like you’ve been tossed into a blender, and I can’t think of anyone in my life who could have gone through all of what you just described and not feel exhausted so please keep that in mind. It sounds like a lot. I don’t have any advice to give except, if you are able, find and speak to a professional therapist. I thought I was above that sort of…
> One thing I wish someone had told me in my mental health journey - If you don’t connect with the first (or second, or third) therapist you meet with, fire them and look for a new one.
100% this. I was thankful when someone gave me this advice and finally found a therapist that's been such a huge help in dealing with depression. If you (swat535, or anyone) need someone to talk to please hit me up, my email is in my profile.
Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?
#203I am, and I feel I have nobody to talk to
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#204Earlier quoted context omitted.
Get a dog or three.
After cat sitting for a neighbor recently, I've been seriously considering adopting a pair of cats :)
I just adopted a 1yr old cat. It’s been wonderful. He’s a little monster, but he’s also on a routine, and is someone else to care for. It keeps me in sync, and I’ve been much better for it.
It’s obviously a long commitment, but I had been wanting a cat for a while.
At the same time, I’ve been actually getting help psychiatrically, which has been life changing.
Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?
#205National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: (800) 273-8255
Keep in mind that calling this phone number literally just has police/ambulance sent to your location to 5150 you and put you in an involuntary 3 day psych hold. You're just better off just voluntarily commiting yourself to a psych center than calling this number. Unfortunately reality, honestly.
Do they also send you a medical bill for your involuntary hold afterwards too?
(I seem to recall a comment about this some time ago, but maybe I imagined it.)
Edit: Searched to find it. Didn't find it, but found this story which seems similar (7 days, $16k, personal bankruptcy): https://www.vox.com/2016/2/11/10952078/mental-health-bankrup...
Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?
#206Reading through here I see a lot of people who are just as depressed as me, anyone wanna have a be less alone video chat?
A be less alone chat sounds like an awesome idea! I want to not participate but doing this is probably one of those things that's better in hindsight (like getting out for a walk or cooking something fancy for yourself). Count me in if this ends up happening. My email is in my profile.
Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?
#207Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…
My condolences on a truly rough year, I hope things start to look up for you.
I had a similar cataclysm in 2007, let me share one sliver of advice: what you're experiencing is grief, rather than depression.
They feel similar but they come from different places.
That's it; any attempt to try and tell you how to feel about it or what to do would be out of place. Good luck.
Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?
#208I'm fighting every day to keep the depression at bay. I've been through the same thing as every one else this year, plus my sister took her on life in March and my startup that was flying in February, has been hammered by the pandemic.
I felt like I was about to slide back into depression in May. I needed something that I could accomplish that was completely within my control. I decided to start lifting weights. It has changed my life. I lift for one hour, four days a week. I thought it would be good for my mental health, but I didn't realize how quickly my muscles would grow.
I've never been muscular - I sit at a desk all day and code. In just a few weeks I could see significant changes in my body. Six months in and I look and feel like a completely different person. I love looking at myself in the mirror. (Sorry for oversharing a bit.)
Lifting is much easier than intense cardio for me, and it is helping me keep my head above water. I highly recommend it for anyone that might be having a hard time.
Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?
#209Earlier quoted context omitted.
Keep in mind that calling this phone number literally just has police/ambulance sent to your location to 5150 you and put you in an involuntary 3 day psych hold. You're just better off just voluntarily commiting yourself to a psych center than calling this number. Unfortunately reality, honestly.
Do they also send you a medical bill for your involuntary hold afterwards too? (I seem to recall a comment about this some time ago, but maybe I imagined it.) Edit: Searched to find it. Didn't find it, but found this story which seems similar (7 days, $16k, personal bankruptcy): https://www.vox.com/2016/2/11/10952078/mental-health-bankrup...
Yes, it can be upwards of tens of thousands for the initial 5150 - the ambulance ride (in which you'll likely have two of - one to a hospital, one to a ward) can be $1500 alone.
And, because we're in the U.S., if you do have slightly decent insurance, a fair amount of centers people will be sent to will literally work to keep you in there as long as your insurance keeps paying. It's an absolutely special sort of fucked up that doesn't have a fraction of the light shed upon it that it should.
I've been friends with more than one person that have worked in psych wards for more than a year and the blatant fraud they tell me of is just insane.