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Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by JSavageOne »

Razengan wrote: post #106

Yes. It’s hard to have empathy and not be. As we grow up and become aware of our world, there’s too much shit going on everywhere to truly be happy anymore even if my own life was perfect, and there’s little good to look forward to. At best we can hope for everything to keep shambling on and not collapse catastrophically. And the worst part? Even if everything did collapse it would be hard to feel sorry for us.. I da…

I used to be bothered by all that's wrong in this world, but as I've gotten older I've slowly learned to accept that which I cannot change, because otherwise I'd just be perpetually pissed off and it's impossible to be happy.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by httpsterio »

peterwwillis wrote: post #185
httpsterio wrote: post #158

Fuck yes. I left a stable job because I have a plethora of health issues and wanted to put the little energy and productivity I have into studying, so I went to Uni. I've burned through my savings (6k or so) in 11 months now and I'm almost going broke as my sick leave wasn't approved any longer. My body literally don't cope with stress as my pituitary doesn't produce enough cortisol, testosterone or thyroxine. Now th…

This may sound stupid, but you can try looking up the stories of people who had really hard luck and struggled, and finally were able to make a life for themselves. Their stories can remind you that even after enduring incredible hardships, you can overcome them, even if you don't know how yet. I also suggest meditating on death and life. Ask yourself what's the worst thing that could happen. Usually it's not death,…

You are of course right and if I stop and think about it rationally, everything is relatively alright.

The thing is that I've had to deal with a lot of health issues over the past decade and it's very disheartening to go without a proper diagnosis and treatment for so long. Compared to my old self, I'm definitely playing life on hard mode and I just don't have the energy for it any longer.

Im not afraid of death. Ceasing to exist would be a lot easier than struggling every day. I'm more afraid that my life won't ever get any easier and I just have to sit in and go through the motions, without actually living and enjoying life.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by antonzabirko »

swat535 wrote: post #186

Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…

Hey! Its me, minus the girlfriend, job, and career history :(.

Sorry to hear about your gf tho

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by e_y_ »

I think I get pretty bummed out at times, but I don't think I'm depressed. Just stressed out, low self esteem, imposter syndrome, and I'm sure plenty of other problems.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by lazyasciiart »

kortex wrote: post #146

Yep. But surprisingly not as bad as I expected, given COVID, and ADHD+bipolar going into this mess. I've been reeeally depressed in the past, this isn't that. But feeling very burned out. Focus and working memory is really suffering. I'm too busy/tired to be bored but I feel novelty-deprived. I'm barely exercising and I know that's contributing but forming exercise habits is hard for me. Would be great actually if an…

Make your workout sessions a commitment with someone else. If you know someone else who also wishes they were exercising, contact them to arrange a time once a week, or more, to work out 'together'. Even now, you can do socially distanced outside in the same place, or video calling from your house to chat/ check form/be present, or do either at a gym if they are open.

If you don't know/don't want to involve anyone else, you can also pay a personal trainer to do this.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by gricardo99 »

swat535 wrote: post #186

Nowhere else to post this so here it goes. I lost my job in January. From January - March I started looking for a job and then COVID hits at the height of my search, now suddenly no one is hiring and all the businesses are slowing down. My girlfriend of 13 years left me the day after my birthday in June before I had a chance to propose to her, I had to return the ring, she had no idea and I never told her about it. I…

That’s rough, sorry to hear that. You’ve been hanging in there, despite these very trying times, and managed to get a job. Keep it up. Keep hanging in there, things will get better.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by jointpdf »

cambalache wrote: post #183
jointpdf wrote: post #175

Earlier quoted context omitted.

What are some things you do have that you appreciate?

Health, a temporary visa. A small amount of savings so I am not starving, no debt, both parents are alive and together, lots of nephews/nieces, love for science and technology...

Ah, so we’re a 6.5 for 7 match on those (I guess all of our visas to the universe are temporary).

I would add Earth/nature/life, music/art/knowledge, and consciousness/existence to the list. These are almost universally appreciated things, regardless of material situation.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by riffraff »

patcon wrote: post #128

Remote work is not for me. I'm struggling pretty hard. I miss people. I miss my sense of being good at the parts of work that involved people. I'm shit at working alone. I'm not productive like some are, and all my best assets were how I could support people around me and help them love what they were doing. All I have left of work are the parts that make me feel badly every day. Fuck this pandemic.

I am not trying to be dismissive, I understand missing people, but why can't you support people around you in a remote environment?

You can pair with someone, or have informal chats, or plan some online game with your colleagues, have presentations in your team around work or non-work related things, setup a book club.

It is harder and not as good as in-person interaction, but maybe you can get some good out of it.

EDIT: sorry, I am re-reading this and please be assured my intent is not to say you're "wrong", but just to offer some minor remediation ideas that might be helpful.

Re: Ask HN: Are you depressed?

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Post by cambalache »

jointpdf wrote: post #198
cambalache wrote: post #183

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Health, a temporary visa. A small amount of savings so I am not starving, no debt, both parents are alive and together, lots of nephews/nieces, love for science and technology...

Ah, so we’re a 6.5 for 7 match on those (I guess all of our visas to the universe are temporary). I would add Earth/nature/life, music/art/knowledge, and consciousness/existence to the list. These are almost universally appreciated things, regardless of material situation.

Yes, of course I could go on and on. I am a generally optimistic person per nature, so even if my material situation is bad I dont feel is a catatrophe
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