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Misclicking is a tiny forgivable mistake. Not immediately calling up your boss to say "I fucked up big" is not a mistake, it is a conscious bad action.
This. The person that erased the database in my case came forward to me as soon as we realized what had happened. At that moment I was very happy it was an "inside job", it meant I could discard hacking. As its said before: he made a mistake. The error was allowing the prod database to to be port forwarded from a non prod environment. As head of eng that was MY error. So I owned to it and we changed policies.
Nice that you were a person he felt ok with sharing the mistake with, I suppose that's an important part of being head of eng.