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I'm a 44 year old software engineer. I've done other things before, but I've gotten an offer every place I've interviewed. This simply isn't true. It might be true in silicon valley or some other hipster magnets, but there's definitely a market for those of us who have been around for decades and been solving problems for decades.
I am based in the North East, also over 40, and my experience both of you are correct. Agism is absolutely real, but opportunities still exist.
I'm just starting out in my career, but I find the prospect of future me being devalued because he's a couple years older terrible, and I don't understand why others seem okay with it. Aging is going a second per second for everyone, isn't it?