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I built an app to fix my depression

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Re: I built an app to fix my depression

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Post by me_me_me »

mikaelsouza wrote: post #86
me_me_me wrote: post #63

It makes me sad when i read stories like that. I feel depressed. Doctor - Take these pills. I still feel sad. Doctor - Take more pills. Medication cures symptoms of depression but cannot fix the underlying problems causing it. Taking pill to feel happy again is a patchwork that will eventually burst catastrophically.

Agreed. I've suffered from depression for so long and most psychiatrists I visited just told me to take some pills that made me feel numb and didn't fix the underlying issue. Now I've been working with a therapist since January alongside with some pills and I feel so much better. Not only the depression symptoms are mostly gone, but I feel I know so much more about myself and now I can understand what made me feel li…

> Anyway, if you, dear reader, are suffering from depression, I recommend you to visit a therapist with an open mind.

I would add on top of this, try out different therapists if current one is not working for you, rather than saying 'this is not working, i am done with therapy'.

Re: I built an app to fix my depression

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Post by arsome »

teekert wrote: post #59
NalNezumi wrote: post #55

Read the blog post and also the other blog post in the page ( "Why discipline isn’t the answer to procrastination", "How to stick to good habits without being hard on yourself", "How fear of shame causes procrastination", "How fear of success causes procrastination"). I get the feeling that the author is in a situation a lot of people in HN could relate to: A situation where Performance Anxiety, Fear of missing out (…

I think, as op also insinuates, it is all about acceptance. Accepting one's shortcomings, accepting that you can't do everything you want(ed), that you wont become what you always dreamed of. Love yourself despite of what you think of as shortcomings, think of the things you did achieve (and the things you have, like a stoic philosopher). You are a pretty incredible being with pretty incredible skills. If only you ac…

> Happiness = Reality - Expectation

So the real key to happiness is to set your expectations as low as possible!

Re: I built an app to fix my depression

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Post by kyanne »

searchableguy wrote: post #41
cgriswald wrote: post #38

Earlier quoted context omitted.

When I was (very) depressed I could get plenty done. I just couldn’t feel any reward for getting anything done. Of course, I couldn’t feel any reward for slacking off either. So I had the choice to either live in a world of ash or live in a world of ash and do something. Either way I felt (or more accurately didn’t feel) the same way. So it was an easy choice and no willpower was required to actually do stuff.

That's important to learn. When given the choice to feel nothing about either, you should choose something productive to do. People are much more likely to help you if you have a good past record and can maintain some benefits for them. It's an investment to help a depressed person for society and if you get stuck in the hole for longer, you are that unlikely to get any help.

This is an incredibly callous and sad way to think of the well-being of other human beings. Helping another person as they struggle with their mental health shouldn't be an investment, something you expect to extract value from later; you help someone through difficult times because you care about them and love them. It's something you should do out of the goodness of your heart.

Viewing all of your relationships as investments is selfish, hurtful, and will very likely result in a very lonely life for you

Re: I built an app to fix my depression

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Post by jedimastert »

me_me_me wrote: post #63

It makes me sad when i read stories like that. I feel depressed. Doctor - Take these pills. I still feel sad. Doctor - Take more pills. Medication cures symptoms of depression but cannot fix the underlying problems causing it. Taking pill to feel happy again is a patchwork that will eventually burst catastrophically.

> Medication cures symptoms of depression but cannot fix the underlying problems causing it

This implies that there always is a root cause, which I don't think is the case. Very often there is, but sometimes there's just an imbalance.

Re: I built an app to fix my depression

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Post by teekert »

arsome wrote: post #92
teekert wrote: post #59

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think, as op also insinuates, it is all about acceptance. Accepting one's shortcomings, accepting that you can't do everything you want(ed), that you wont become what you always dreamed of. Love yourself despite of what you think of as shortcomings, think of the things you did achieve (and the things you have, like a stoic philosopher). You are a pretty incredible being with pretty incredible skills. If only you ac…

> Happiness = Reality - Expectation So the real key to happiness is to set your expectations as low as possible!

You won't be disappointed in that approach, ever ;)

Re: I built an app to fix my depression

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Post by smusamashah »

teekert wrote: post #59
NalNezumi wrote: post #55

Read the blog post and also the other blog post in the page ( "Why discipline isn’t the answer to procrastination", "How to stick to good habits without being hard on yourself", "How fear of shame causes procrastination", "How fear of success causes procrastination"). I get the feeling that the author is in a situation a lot of people in HN could relate to: A situation where Performance Anxiety, Fear of missing out (…

I think, as op also insinuates, it is all about acceptance. Accepting one's shortcomings, accepting that you can't do everything you want(ed), that you wont become what you always dreamed of. Love yourself despite of what you think of as shortcomings, think of the things you did achieve (and the things you have, like a stoic philosopher). You are a pretty incredible being with pretty incredible skills. If only you ac…

This is the same line of thought Mark Manson (Subtle art of not giving a Fuck). He says seeking happiness is a bad idea and the same that telling kids you can be whatever you want is damaging just as you said. He says things that I feel like we know most of the times but just don't want to admit.

This[1][2] is what he has to say about depression. It's largely about acceptance.

[1]: https://markmanson.net/youre-okay

[2]: https://markmanson.net/the-uncomfortable-truth

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