I wish this would be a completely normal thing to do. I think if we were more genuinely compassionate and cared more about each other’s lives then this world would be a better place.
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#22Earlier quoted context omitted.
If you're living in Europe then that's something that you just need to accept, the pay is nowhere near anywhere the pay in the US, I think in my country it caps at something like 60k$ per year and that's if you're really good at what you're doing.
I recently came to the same conclusion, but also realised that there is a lot more to it than just pay. Generalising here but switching for a similar role in the US will mean: * No more free healthcare * Much less PTO * _Significantly_ less parental leave for you and your partner * Less pension/401k contributions (typically) * Generally longer hours and a more intense working culture * Probably a higher cost of livin…
Also no social safety nets, assuming you're moving from somewhere with safety nets. Where I live, I always know that if things get too bad I will always have enough to eat, and the ability to get medical care.
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#23on a side note, "R U OK" is a meme in China, originally taken from a clip of Xiaomi's president LeiJun public English speach.
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#24Earlier quoted context omitted.
If you're living in Europe then that's something that you just need to accept, the pay is nowhere near anywhere the pay in the US, I think in my country it caps at something like 60k$ per year and that's if you're really good at what you're doing.
I recently came to the same conclusion, but also realised that there is a lot more to it than just pay. Generalising here but switching for a similar role in the US will mean: * No more free healthcare * Much less PTO * _Significantly_ less parental leave for you and your partner * Less pension/401k contributions (typically) * Generally longer hours and a more intense working culture * Probably a higher cost of livin…
Finally someone points this out :D
Even within one country, where you live can make a huge difference in terms of how much rent you pay, whether you can get by without a car, etc.
If you get paid a lot but most of it goes directly to your landlord, you're not really any better off than someone who makes a bit less but keeps more of it.
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#25No, I'm not, but I'm working on it and I will be. It's been interesting today, seeing people at work walking around together, using work-sponsored coffee vouchers specifically to have a coffee with a colleague today, my face clearly says 'I am not okay', yet only two people have spoken to me at all today, some have clearly avoided me.
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#26No
(playing along)
How long have you felt that way?
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#27Like so many other products, services and initiatives, this website would greatly benefit from a prominently placed, buzzword-free, ELI5 explanation of what it actually does.
Finally I found this in one of the subpages that explains some of it:
> Got a feeling that someone you know or care about it isn’t behaving as they normally would? Perhaps they seem out of sorts? More agitated or withdrawn? Or they’re just not themselves. Trust that gut instinct and act on it. Learn more about the signs and when it's time to ask R U OK? here.
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#28No, I'm not, but I'm working on it and I will be. It's been interesting today, seeing people at work walking around together, using work-sponsored coffee vouchers specifically to have a coffee with a colleague today, my face clearly says 'I am not okay', yet only two people have spoken to me at all today, some have clearly avoided me.
Hey, do you want to chat?
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#29No, I'm not, but I'm working on it and I will be. It's been interesting today, seeing people at work walking around together, using work-sponsored coffee vouchers specifically to have a coffee with a colleague today, my face clearly says 'I am not okay', yet only two people have spoken to me at all today, some have clearly avoided me.
Hey, do you want to chat?
Thank you, champion, but no. I've got people to talk with, and I am using that. Not everybody does though, and it disappoints me to see so many people missing that point.
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#30I’m doing ok-ish. I’m waiting to start a new job but I’m afraid maybe some of my past mistakes might have an impact on the ultimate decision. I’m in a really tight financial bind (on top of it all, the only family car broke down yesterday). This new job would be life-changing in terms of financial security and my future career. Taking a cue from this site, I think I will take action by reaching out tomorrow to the re…
Best of luck on the job front!