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I’m very nostalgic about the countless hours I frittered away on video games and the internet as an adolescent. Part of me thinks it made me the person I am today, who I am proud of. I recently joined a Counter Strike team with work and had some of the most fun times I can think of recently. I compare that with the time I put aside to learn 3D modelling, which was fun in its own way but required more self motivation…
I'll think about you while I'm playing video games today pours some Monster energy drink on the floor
I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35
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#542Funny piece. It can be so easy to waste time when we have the internet. I think the most dangerous distractions are the ones that feel productive but don’t actually work toward your goals. For example, browsing hacker news. Such an activity is useful every now and then, but at least for myself I often scroll around only to realize later that it was a massive waste of time I could’ve spent working on something I care…
People are now terrified of putting down a screen and being left alone with their own thoughts for more than 30 seconds. It's horrifying what's bouncing around up in that dome, and having to process it. But this is exactly what we did before. We got bored , we were wasting time, we were experimenting, and that's how great ideas came around.
This is not a new problem, we are just experiencing a hyper version of it. Social media, the world's knowledge at your finger tips, is distraction on steroids.
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#543Anyway, fwiw: I'm 47, living by the sea in the most beautiful bit of the UK, and running a successful micro business which works with non profits.
I've deliberately chosen a path over the last decade which is about family, and I say no to any business which would cause high levels of stress, no matter how lucrative. I only work with people I like. I say no to lots of work. I've deliberately taken the choice to not grow staff or move into an office, even though we have the financials and potential to do so.
Why? Because life is about more than work. I've got two teenage kids. I see them for hours every day (not 20 minutes which I read recently is the average US dad daily contact time with his kids). I get to surf with them, to eat with them, to be with my wife, to read, to play piano and do hobbies.
Do I put some money aside? Yes, a bit. Is it enough? Who knows, and who cares. I'll work until I'm 90 if I have to so I can continue to have this quality of life with my family and the environment around me.
I'm incredibly, incredibly lucky - there's no doubt I've had a great path through life so far. But if I'm able to offer advice now it appears I'm an old git (and yes, the speed with which life happens is as per the article, it's terrifying!) - it's this: live your life. Live it and be poor. Take every single chance you can to be with your friends and family. Say yes to work that makes you happy. If it doesn't, find something else. In your 20's you'll want to eat the world. Do it, while you have the energy and appetite, but know that when you get older your tastes are going to change. Slow down, and accept that most of the best things in life aren't work, aren't money, and don't require either to create meaning.
Be in your life.
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#545I love life. I'm 37. Being alive in itself is truly remarkable. I've made great friends. I've met people who ended up disappointing me greatly. I've married a smart, beautiful, ambitious woman twelve years ago. We've went through exhilarating ups and soulcrushing downs. I've worked for a startup, which almost went under several times. I've worked for a corporate thresher which sucked life right out of me. I've worked…
That hit hard amigo! Nicely written post.
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The speed still matters somehow. Well, take Johnny Cash. Half a mile a day * 30k days gives 15k miles; maybe it's enough to reach heaven, but not enough to e.g. reach the Moon. So, when choosing to move steadily albeit slowly, you have to manage your expectations, and get used to get by with little. Investing your time is not unlike investing your money: least risky strategies bring most stable but least spectacular…
> while big bets bring both big gains and big losses. it's actually an asymmetric. The losses a capped - you cannot lose more than you own, and you cannot lose more than the time you put in (which is, of course, something you're going to lose by living any way). Technically, you also lose the "risk free reward" in opportunity cost - e.g., a minimum wage job. The gains, however, are unlimited. For both yourself, and f…
Those who faced personal bankruptcies in 2007-2008 and were stuck with mortgages that were worth far more than their home values might not agree with you.
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#547I was incredibly driven about 7 years ago... I was a founder of a startup and had really lofty aspirations. I told my wife that it was very possible that we would be millionaires by the time we hit 40. Fast forward to today and that did not happen. The startup is no more, but mainly due to burnout. We made money and did well, but not well enough. I never made my millions, but did have a substantial aqui-hire opportun…
I like that. Thanks for sharing it. I'm 58. I spent over thirty years, writing and managing software projects that other people generally didn't use well (or mishandled while developing). It was frustrating, but they paid the bills, so there wasn't anything I could do about it. Since leaving my last job, I started to look at working, and immediately , and with extreme prejudice, slammed into the notorious ageism in t…
- 25 years at a single company is working against you. Remove all that from your cv and just list the recent stuff you built.
- Most of your cv should be description of the repos with links. Cut out and summarise past experience ruthlessly, like you’re refactoring someone else’s old code.
- Remove the link to your personal git page, use the other one. On first sight it looks weak - it has some html files and a lot of docs. My first reaction was “meh”. It took me many minutes of browsing to figure out the real meat was in the other repo And then my reaction was “wow”. Most hiring manager don’t have time for this. People are not clicking on the green squares they are clicking on the source repos, you have about 30 seconds of their time.
- At this stage you might get bored or unhappy real fast in a job, if you are honest to yourself. Consider selling short term access to deep technical expertise - in your case Mobile Bluetooth on iOS.
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That’s the puzzling thing about the ageism. The folks practicing it are gonna get to be in this seat, before they know it. Hope that they are saving and investing, instead of splurging on Teslas and Mission District cribs.
What percentage of income do you think young people should be saving? Because from what I see, this is the age of freely available personal finance advice, and more people seem to be following it at whichever age they stumble into stable income. Sure, there would be splurges here and there, but as far as I can tell, people are saving well. https://www.cnbc.com/2019/11/20/why-young-people-are-saving-... https://www.vo…
As a result, they don’t take shit from anyone. They don’t have to. They can afford to say « no » to overtime and spend time with their family. They can afford to quit when it sucks too much with no hope of improvement rather than destroy their health.
It’s a good position to be in.
They still live a good life. They just didn’t buy a new car ever three years, or brand new 700$ smartphones or computers but rather used ones that are a couple years old, packed their lunch instead of eating out at work, etc.
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#549Here's what's astounding to me: scrolling through the responses here on HN shows an almost total focus on money and career. I read the piece and thought about life and personal ambition. That's kinda interesting. Anyway, fwiw: I'm 47, living by the sea in the most beautiful bit of the UK, and running a successful micro business which works with non profits. I've deliberately chosen a path over the last decade which i…
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#550I've been mentoring CS college students and new grad SWEs for a while. It's shocking to see how many of them perpetually feel like they're overwhelmed and short on time, yet they can't account for where they've actually spent their time. It's not uncommon for new grad SWEs to complain that an 8-hour work day is somehow consuming 100% of their weekday hours, leaving them without any time to do anything else. On furthe…
Thanks for reminding me to turn on screen time on my phone. I am indeed wasting a lot of time on my phone reading things that don't get me much value while procrastinating on real work or things that I consciously want to spend my time on. This problem is a lot more prevalent on my phone than on my laptop. I catch myself browsing HN without any intent and without any goal, mostly reading comments and skimming on arti…
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