What i did today was more important than what I didn’t do. Make it a tautology !
I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35
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Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35
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Do you want to work together on a thing?
That depends. I’m only interested in doing stuff I want to do; the way I want to do it. Most of that stuff is now water under the bridge. I’m pretty hesitant to get into the industry, in its current state. Not much fun to be had. I’m already committed to working on a nonprofit, but we’ll see how that develops.
You’re mindset sounds so similar to mine it’s eerie. Good luck with your endeavors.
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Nope, but my siblings had their first and I witnessed how life altering of an experience it was for them where they had to put their careers on hold and nothing else mattered other than this new born (justifiably so), pregnancy was also rough for the wives so the husbands has double duty, taking care of newborn at all hours and recovering wives from c-section and complications. Not looking forward to the first year.…
My tip is get as much help as possible. Extended family and friends. Help can be babysitting or preparing food or helping with diy. And have cash to pay for convinence. Don’t buy anything (clothing, Furniture) new except of course toiletries and diapers - that’ll save you 3k or so that you can invest in eating take out. I’m serious ;-) Uber eats is your go to baby gift to ask for! Cruise at work as much as possible -…
Did you ever hire a nanny? Can that even be done with a newborn? I feel like just a couple nights reprieve to recover the sleep deprivation would be huge.
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#494Earlier quoted context omitted.
As a language learner (working on my 8th right now), I dabble in Duolingo from time to time and agree that it provides contact time with the language, and any contact time helps reinforce memory. Language learning in general though, I have found, is not that amenable to gamification. Some learning methods may be more efficient than others, but even with the most efficient methods, real language learning is still inhe…
> Language learning in general though, I have found, is not that amenable to gamification. Some learning methods may be more efficient than others, but even with the most efficient methods, real language learning is still inherently and unavoidably a slog. So if you come across a method that makes it "easy", chances are it's not actually working Go to a foreign country and try to get laid. Genuine intrinsic motivatio…
Heh, that's the usual advice. However if you ask certain polyglots, they will tell you that as a general rule (exceptions exist), being in a foreign country or having a romantic partner aren't necessary or sufficient conditions, and in fact can work against language learning.
How so?
Using a romantic partner as a language-learning partner gets old for said person after a while, especially if you're not actively making progress on the language on the side. Unless said romantic partner is a language teacher, it can be annoying for them to constantly be correcting your mistakes. Over time, this annoyance can actually harm the relationship. Also most native speakers of a language aren't always good teachers -- they may know how to use the language but usually can't explain how things work. It's better to get a tutor whose job is to instruct, bear with your mistakes, and go home after. It's easier to for someone to bear with your mistakes if they don't have to spend all their free time with you.
As for language immersion by living in a country, you'd be surprised how that doesn't really work unless you're actively learning on your own or taking classes. Case in point: I lived in a French-speaking province for 4 years but can barely speak French -- I just never bothered learning. You'd think necessity would force one to learn but there are so many ways to get around actually doing it (e.g. hanging out with expats, using gestures/hand signs, Google Translate, etc.) On the other hand, there are folks who've never been in a Francophone country who can speak French at a high level, often through active learning. In fact, many polyglots often become fluent in a language without ever setting foot in the language's country of origin.
The key really is putting in the work. Getting laid in a foreign country may help kickstart the process, but to achieve working fluency, there are no real shortcuts.
(well, there is one, which is that you already know a related language. This is the only major accelerant. You can learn Afrikaans very quickly if you speak Dutch. Similarly for Malay -> Indonesian, Portuguese -> Spanish ... interestingly, this pair is asymmetric: Spanish -> Portuguese is harder than vice-versa)
Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35
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You just became the first GitHub profile I follow. Good luck bro! I’m still just 35 but I know I’ll face the same music in 20 years or less.
That’s the puzzling thing about the ageism. The folks practicing it are gonna get to be in this seat, before they know it. Hope that they are saving and investing, instead of splurging on Teslas and Mission District cribs.
What percentage of income do you think young people should be saving? Because from what I see, this is the age of freely available personal finance advice, and more people seem to be following it at whichever age they stumble into stable income. Sure, there would be splurges here and there, but as far as I can tell, people are saving well.
https://www.cnbc.com/2019/11/20/why-young-people-are-saving-...
https://www.vox.com/sponsored/13219620/chase-newsroom-genera...
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#496Everyone here is reading this article as a cautionary tale on procrastination. To me it’s about the unrealistic expectations we place on ourselves. Maybe that’s due to our fake meritocratic society, or comparisons made on social media, or our parents expectations. I thought I’d be a millionaire by now, changing the world for the better, with a Wikipedia page and a yacht. But what I really want now is to put down the…
It could be worse. You could be a millionaire, have sacrificed good years of your life and your health, and realise that happiness was achievable on a shoestring all along. We’re sold a lie from the get-go, a lovely orange carrot dangling just in front of us. Very occasionally a lucky donkey catches the carrot, because the stick broke or somesuch - but the carrot is made of wood. This is why we have billionaires. The…
The handful of (tech) billionaires I’ve met all seemed to genuinely enjoy the work that made them rich. People have different utility functions (which is a good thing!)
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My tip is get as much help as possible. Extended family and friends. Help can be babysitting or preparing food or helping with diy. And have cash to pay for convinence. Don’t buy anything (clothing, Furniture) new except of course toiletries and diapers - that’ll save you 3k or so that you can invest in eating take out. I’m serious ;-) Uber eats is your go to baby gift to ask for! Cruise at work as much as possible -…
Did you ever hire a nanny? Can that even be done with a newborn? I feel like just a couple nights reprieve to recover the sleep deprivation would be huge.
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Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35
#498From Taleb's "Antifragile": "Abundance is harder for us to handle than scarcity.If tired after an intercontinental flight, go to the gym for some exertion instead of resting. Also, it is a well known trick that if you need something urgently done, give the task to the busiest (or second busiest) person in the office. Most humans manage to squander their free time, as free time makes them dysfunctional, lazy, and unmo…
> If tired after an intercontinental flight, go to the gym for some exertion instead of resting.
Personally, I think I’d rather take a 20 minute nap and then go to the gym.
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#499Funny piece. It can be so easy to waste time when we have the internet. I think the most dangerous distractions are the ones that feel productive but don’t actually work toward your goals. For example, browsing hacker news. Such an activity is useful every now and then, but at least for myself I often scroll around only to realize later that it was a massive waste of time I could’ve spent working on something I care…
People are now terrified of putting down a screen and being left alone with their own thoughts for more than 30 seconds. It's horrifying what's bouncing around up in that dome, and having to process it. But this is exactly what we did before. We got bored , we were wasting time, we were experimenting, and that's how great ideas came around.
Very well put.
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#500I can definitely relate to being disappointed with myself after wasting too much time online (YouTube is usually my addiction).
Problem is, even when I am productive, I usually don't feel much better for it. At least I don't feel guilty, but I don't really feel satisfied either. Feeling satisfied at the end of the day just seems to be random.