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I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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Post by gstipi »

oars wrote: post #389
gstipi wrote: post #367

I love life. I'm 37. Being alive in itself is truly remarkable. I've made great friends. I've met people who ended up disappointing me greatly. I've married a smart, beautiful, ambitious woman twelve years ago. We've went through exhilarating ups and soulcrushing downs. I've worked for a startup, which almost went under several times. I've worked for a corporate thresher which sucked life right out of me. I've worked…

Thank you, I really needed this.

Thank you, friend, writing this felt very liberating.

Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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Post by nemo44x »

jacobwilliamroy wrote: post #388
AnimalMuppet wrote: post #386

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You don't have to already have blueprints for the house in order to want the million dollars. Once you get the million, then you have time to look at blueprints.

The dream is so far out of reach, it doesn't even exist. Yet we chase the money anyways. Thank you for explaining.

I guess I’m living proof that you’re wrong. There’s likely quite a few people on this site that have managed to achieve a million+ net worth by 40 without coming from a high net worth family.

Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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Post by jodrellblank »

jeffnv wrote: post #180
tayo42 wrote: post #153

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Idk if it's just terrified, but I think we're addicted. This probably sounds ridiculous but I recently blocked some apps and sites on my phone and actually felt a little off for a day, like my sleep was weird. I think there was a slight withdrawal from the constant bombardment of stuff. It is helping kill my Facebook habit. I don't even really like the site, I just check it impulsively. It's weird. Reddit is another…

What information on reddit is useful?

/r/rust

Pick a programming language or piece of popular tech, chances are good it has a subReddit of discussions and links to blog posts and announcements, sometimes with some of the creator/maintainer people posting.

Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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Post by graeme »

deegles wrote: post #355
graeme wrote: post #346

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> Personally, I freed up an enormous amount of time by tightening up my schedule. Learning how to get out of bed, get dressed, eat breakfast, and get out the door in under 30 minutes was a game changer for me, and it wasn't even that difficult. How do you do that? Am assuming you include a shower. It seems like there is not enough time to do all those things unless breakfast is just milk/cereal or eaten on the go. Or…

You can't improve what you don't measure. Maybe try making a list of the things you need to do in the mornings to get ready (as detailed as you want) and timing yourself might help. You can then see what you can improve. Same with chores and cooking.

It’s worth a shot. I actually do use timers though, and I’d specifically like to know how they got it down to 30 min, as that is extremely fast for that list of things. I suspect they have some tips we might apply.

But I’ll try timing breakfast etc

Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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Post by Aeolun »

WrtCdEvrydy wrote: post #273
xxxtentachyon wrote: post #249

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As someone who has generally tried to take your current approach and has generally been rewarded for it, yours is a refreshing perspective. There's a persistent voice in the back of my head that questions whether I'm acting out of fear, rationality, or just following a happy stasis. It's always reassuring to see the other side of this.

Noone posts about how their startup exploded and took 5 years of savings in their prime money earning years.

Are you suggesting that your twenties are prime money earning years? I know that for me my earnings have only gone up over time.

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Post by DoreenMichele »

jacobwilliamroy wrote: post #388
AnimalMuppet wrote: post #386

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You don't have to already have blueprints for the house in order to want the million dollars. Once you get the million, then you have time to look at blueprints.

The dream is so far out of reach, it doesn't even exist. Yet we chase the money anyways. Thank you for explaining.

I feel like you are missing some important details about the space you are participating in. Quite a lot of people here make very good money. Lots of programmers and business people here, both of whom trend towards well heeled.

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Post by Tijdreiziger »

yibg wrote: post #293
renjimen wrote: post #31

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I’m very nostalgic about the countless hours I frittered away on video games and the internet as an adolescent. Part of me thinks it made me the person I am today, who I am proud of. I recently joined a Counter Strike team with work and had some of the most fun times I can think of recently. I compare that with the time I put aside to learn 3D modelling, which was fun in its own way but required more self motivation…

Me too. I remember my countless hours playing (arguably wasted) diablo 2 very fondly. I still recall a lot of the detailed stats of specific characters I had built. Also helps I had sunk the hours playing with my partner at the time, so it was also a bit of a bonding moment. Didn’t help my grades any though.

If you remember those times fondly, no time was wasted.

Re: I thought I would have accomplished a lot more today and also before I was 35

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Post by nine_k »

war1025 wrote: post #335
bstar77 wrote: post #245

I was incredibly driven about 7 years ago... I was a founder of a startup and had really lofty aspirations. I told my wife that it was very possible that we would be millionaires by the time we hit 40. Fast forward to today and that did not happen. The startup is no more, but mainly due to burnout. We made money and did well, but not well enough. I never made my millions, but did have a substantial aqui-hire opportun…

My personal mantra at work is: One useful thing per day. If I manage to do one useful thing every day, it adds up to a lot of useful things over time. And that has proven to be enough. There's a sort of mediocre Johnny Cash song with the chorus "Even I might get to Heaven at a half a mile a day" That's basically how I try to live my life.

The speed still matters somehow.

Well, take Johnny Cash. Half a mile a day * 30k days gives 15k miles; maybe it's enough to reach heaven, but not enough to e.g. reach the Moon.

So, when choosing to move steadily albeit slowly, you have to manage your expectations, and get used to get by with little.

Investing your time is not unlike investing your money: least risky strategies bring most stable but least spectacular results, while big bets bring both big gains and big losses.

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Post by Aeolun »

sizzle wrote: post #283
bstar77 wrote: post #245

I was incredibly driven about 7 years ago... I was a founder of a startup and had really lofty aspirations. I told my wife that it was very possible that we would be millionaires by the time we hit 40. Fast forward to today and that did not happen. The startup is no more, but mainly due to burnout. We made money and did well, but not well enough. I never made my millions, but did have a substantial aqui-hire opportun…

Did you have kids? I feel like that is a hard stop and pushes you beyond burn out with sleep deprivation and all your undivided attention, free time and career notwithstanding.

The good thing is we can just call it ‘having children’ of something with negative connotations like burnout.

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Post by Tijdreiziger »

DoreenMichele wrote: post #69
secondcoming wrote: post #58

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It's hard to stop being lazy too

At age 35, I was diagnosed with a genetic disorder. I spent years joking "They finally found a better name for my problem than lazy or crazy. " What gets labeled laziness all too often seems to be exhaustion, invisible disability or other hidden problems.

My perceived laziness turned out to be executive dysfunction caused by autism.
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