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Having an alter ego can reduce anxiety, benefit confidence: research

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Re: Having an alter ego can reduce anxiety, benefit confidence: research

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Here's a neat story. I'm a transgender iOS programmer living in Toronto and I've been diagnosed with chronic anxiety and CPTSD. I am also a rapper/producer under the name 'Nikki Grace', on Spotify/Apple Music/Youtube, etc...

I've been producing and engineering music for bands and other folks for about ten years, but I had never released any solo material. After my Mother's passing last year, I decided to strut out my first mixtape of just five songs. I was extraordinarily nervous, as being transgender, I had assumed an entirely different tone and inflection in my voice; and rapping was something I had rarely done before.

I put it out in July of last year, and; to my surprise, the music was incredibly well-received; well-reviewed by my peers - and - to my surprise, each song on that 5-track mixtape, with no advertising, has had tens of thousands of listens on Spotify since.

The confidence increase in this was immense! My anxiety about certain integral things has certainly gone down - especially in the field of music, I second-guess myself far less often than I used to; I hit 'stop' on over-analyzing things earlier than before, amongst other tangible benefits. I've never even performed on stage and often end up with around $100-300 of revenue a month just for putting myself out there. (Which, in streaming revenue; is a shockingly large amount of streams!)

There have been serious crises in my life since my Mom's passing; I had to take leave from my work for time, but; guess what? Nobody listening to my music knew any of that. The alter ego literally just lets me go through all of that, put out music every few months, and turned out to be the healthiest outlet of my life.

It is absolutely true - it's paramount that you find your outlet and do it.

Re: Having an alter ego can reduce anxiety, benefit confidence: research

#152

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It’s a bit like in gmail, where you can add a + and it allows you to spot spam mail. So, if someone calls you John+firstjob, you know where they’ve known you.

I'm curious, does this still work? Since GMail is likely the largest email provider in the world, I would have expected spammers to simply filter out the `+.*` by now.

What advantage would spammers get from trying to hide the provenance of a bought/rented/stolen list? If it was a really profitable scam like crypto phishing, having the modifiers might even be an advantage because they could target the templates more effectively.

Re: Having an alter ego can reduce anxiety, benefit confidence: research

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I'm reminded of the bit in Silicon Valley where Jared turns into Ed Chambers. Of course that was a pretty dramatic character swing, but I had no idea that this was a real thing people did.

Ed Chambers https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vnug6i5SkQQ

The way he totally transforms on the spot into a cackling jerk in the kitchen scene is so great, Zack Woods was such an incredible talent on that show.

Re: Having an alter ego can reduce anxiety, benefit confidence: research

#155

In high school, it was wearing a three-piece suit (because if you're not wearing a vest, are you really wearing a suit?) for all of my speech and debate events; now, it's wearing one of my kilts. For those of us with anxiety, esp social anxiety this entire article isn't necessarily surprising, as many of us use some form of externalizing our confidence to get through big presentations, meetings, etc. If I've got an i…

Kind of reminds me how my 25th great uncle is Robert The Bruce.

Fun times.

Walks off

Re: Having an alter ego can reduce anxiety, benefit confidence: research

#156

In high school, it was wearing a three-piece suit (because if you're not wearing a vest, are you really wearing a suit?) for all of my speech and debate events; now, it's wearing one of my kilts. For those of us with anxiety, esp social anxiety this entire article isn't necessarily surprising, as many of us use some form of externalizing our confidence to get through big presentations, meetings, etc. If I've got an i…

Kind of reminds me how my 25th great uncle is Robert The Bruce. Fun times. Walks off

I'm sure you are silently judging the fact I don't really like bagpipes too... Groundskeeper Willie fist shake

Re: Having an alter ego can reduce anxiety, benefit confidence: research

#157

This is bad and will never allow the person to be free. Merely the fact that an "alter ego" is needed points to the fact that the person experiences fear and anxiety towards something. If he needs an alter ego to overcome that it is supression/dissociation. This will ensure that this person will never be free of it. This only looks good on the surface, but in reality this will emprison the person for life. Those who…

It's also used by top performers the world over.

Re: Having an alter ego can reduce anxiety, benefit confidence: research

#158
I actually do this when I give presentations. It helps a great deal.

Projecting a presence and working on humor or even just levity really helps me do better presentations.

Instead of framing myself as doing a presentation I decided to attempt to think of what kind of a presentation I would be interested in. I eventually figured out would be some kind of exaggeration of myself that was more sarcastic and it actually played out quite well.

I actually discovered that I was good at stand up comedy by attempting to crack jokes while the presentation video wasn't working. At the end of the presentation people asked me if I was a stand up comic and I responded I am one now.

Re: Having an alter ego can reduce anxiety, benefit confidence: research

#159

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Kind of reminds me how my 25th great uncle is Robert The Bruce. Fun times. Walks off

I'm sure you are silently judging the fact I don't really like bagpipes too... Groundskeeper Willie fist shake

I fucking hate bagpipes.

Maybe England only wanted control over Scotland to shut the fucking bagpipes up.

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