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I am in a similar boat and all these rich developers in the SV web bubble fill me with self doubt.
I find it's better to just ignore it. But sometimes it does get hard. My friends make similar amounts of money as me, which is generally what I try to think about. Gotta be happy where you are. Otherwise I guess you could go join the rat race and make the big bucks.
Beginning of 2020, I was 45 years old making A little more than the average senior SaaS CRUD developer made locally because of $bad_career_decisions. It was about $50K -$80K less than a CS grad would make a couple of years out of school working for a FAANG or even a second tier software company on the west coast.
Then Covid hit and the company I worked for had an across the board 10% pay cut.
Just dumb luck and being at the right place at the right time - I happened to have a combination of skills that let me slide into a remote position as a cloud consultant for BigTech.
Now I’m 46 working (virtuallly) along side 26 year olds making more than I do. Win??