So, yes, NYC to a certain point is more about money than anything else.
I have seen it even in dating, when you see so many good looking girls, just dating around so they can have the "Sex and the City" glam life, that they couldn't afford themselves. And this "dinner whore" term (sorry if I am being rude), originated in the east coast.
In SF people seem to be a lot less interested on how much money you make, at least when it comes to dating.