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This is just sales commission rules though. If I get a 30% commission for a sale when the customer is referred by me and at some point in the future the customer asks for a refund I don't give my commission back. Our transaction was done when the original sale was made.
This is not a valid comparison, there is no referral or commission happening here. Compare it more to sales tax, which is a much closer comparison because it is required as part of the transaction in a monopoly ecosystem (much like a sales tax is in a country). If a vendor adds tax to a price, and then charges the customer, and the customer gets a refund, the customer get the sales tax back, but the vendor then doesn…
Because that’s basically Apple’s whole thing. If you want you can just ignore their existence. You can run a very successful business on the web, Android, Windows. But getting your app on iOS and in front of their customer base is really valuable. Better than any billboard or FB ad. They know that customer acquisition is hugely expensive and that being able to sell on their platform will make you more money than not and so they charge like it.
The difference between having Spotify on iOS that can’t mention that premium exists (because that would be using iOS as a marketing vector which Apple charges for) and therefore has to do their own customer acquisition, and being able to convert customers in-app makes a big difference.