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I do think "do what you love" and its cousin "shoot for the stars" get a lot of people in trouble. Personally, "doing" in all its myriad forms isn't something I'm really capable of "loving." Similarly, "dreams" are more of a crushing anxiety-burden than a source of joy. I think about this a lot because my younger sister, whose personality was similar to mine, but with more conscientiousness thrown in, took her own li…
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I'm trying to make the connection to what happened and your comment: > I do think "do what you love" and its cousin "shoot for the stars" get a lot of people in trouble. Are you implying your sister was doing what she loved and it got her in trouble? Because the opposite comes to mind when I read stories like this, that perhaps people feel driven to follow the path they feel they ar…
If you're told "do what you love" doing something you don't love is failure. But most people don't love work. That's why it's called fucking "work". If you're very ambitious, you do love work, because fulfilling your ambition makes up for, you know, working. If you are neither ambitious nor conscientious, you dismiss "love what you do" for bullshit and get on with your life.
If you are conscientious, but not ambitious - that's the dangerous combination. You can't bring yourself to dismiss people's expectations, so you blame yourself.
So, yeah. Maybe I'm full of shit. Maybe I'm just making up a narcissistic story where she wouldn't have killed herself if she were more of an amoral slacker, like me.
But I just wish there were more of a sense of permission to just shrug, say "it's a living" and live your life.