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Re: Ask HN: Have any of you moved back home to save money?

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Post by throw51319 »

alltakendamned wrote: post #199
throw51319 wrote: post #50

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I'm being very strict with doing worthwhile things and not lounging around. I feel like it is almost more of a growth-phase than if I stayed in the city. In the city there are so many stimuli to distract you perpetually... food, raves, dates, "networking" etc. Now at home I can channel past experiences in solitude and learn, create, etc. Of course the downside is there's no dating at all. So essentially will go celib…

Close to 40 here. Have these experiences, you'll regret it later if you don't. There will be plenty of solitude later.

I've actually had a ton of these the past few years in the city. Of course more dates are always welcome.

Figure maybe 1 year of living clean and reducing the stimuli in the late 20s could be good.

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Post by throw51319 »

qorrect wrote: post #124
throw51319 wrote: post #50

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I'm being very strict with doing worthwhile things and not lounging around. I feel like it is almost more of a growth-phase than if I stayed in the city. In the city there are so many stimuli to distract you perpetually... food, raves, dates, "networking" etc. Now at home I can channel past experiences in solitude and learn, create, etc. Of course the downside is there's no dating at all. So essentially will go celib…

My only rain drops on your parade is that raves, dates and networking are particularly important in your 20's. I fear you would miss out on a lot of those activities that you will not get to ( or have far less opportunity to ) do when you're older. At 40 now, I'm glad I had those experiences, but little to no to desire to do them again.

I'm thinking of using this 1 year to kind of reduce the stimuli and recenter. Have def had my share of these experiences in the city. Not drinking alcohol for 2020 as one of my ways of resetting.

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Post by sv1123 »

throw51319 wrote: post #208
sv1123 wrote: post #206

I am a 30-year-old female who lives with my 70-year-old, widowed Mom in California. She's not doing great financially and is sick, so I help her a lot, and provide company as she gets pretty lonely. Been protecting her a lot from going out too much since the pandemic started, so that's sort of worked out. I'm not sure if those of you who say it limits dating options are men, but for me, my options haven't been limite…

Yeah good point. I just don't want to be chatting digitally with somebody for so long... it's kind of a waste of time for both parties, but esp for a guy. Biggest concern is bringing it back to my parents accidentally. Do you go on dates or just chat online?

Before the pandemic, went out on dates all the time. Since the pandemic started, it's been more about talking online. Was considering meeting in-person soon, but the surges in California this week have me reconsidering, mostly because my Mom is high-risk. I don't know if your parents are in poor health, or where you're based, but that's something to weigh in as well while dating. But also, I once dated a guy who was building a startup and living at home temporarily to save money; we just booked us AirBnBs when we wanted to meet but not be around his parents, so there are other options by the way if the girl/you are uncomfortable.

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Post by potatochup »

Wife and I moving back to our home town. Although all our friends are in SF, it's miserable working from a small apartment and not being able to see our friends. Our destination happens to be in one the places that is covid free right now though. We plan on moving back to SF if/when things clear up

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Post by taormina »

throw51319 wrote: post #157
taormina wrote: post #112

OP, I'm your age. I'm still paying my lease in Austin, but I went back to the East Coast to be closer to family in early March. My one bedroom apartment in a busy part of town turned into a huge drawback once this all started, especially since I have a large dog. He's been enjoying the yard.

Are the benefits of living in Austin not there anymore with the lockdown?

For me personally. I can't really see my friends, I can't really walk over to the coffeeshop or bar to work and get out of the house. Having a (large) dog means that I also have to leave the apartment several times a day to properly exercise him. In the last month, my apartment complex has had 3 cases of COVID self-reported, and while they are all apparently self-quarantining, it doesn't make me want to return any time soon.

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Post by beamatronic »

p1esk wrote: post #198
beamatronic wrote: post #183

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Sacramento. Totally undervalued. No one seems to see this!

What’s so good about Sacramento?

Reasonable cost of living, easy access to San Francisco, reasonably healthy economy, easy access to Tahoe, access to many food options

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Post by mrkstu »

mnm1 wrote: post #172
danans wrote: post #72

Something that the pandemic and the associated housing churn offers to young and childless city dwellers is the opportunity to move somewhere they can find a sense of community, which for many is something that is lacking in their lives as evidenced by the long HN threads on the very real subject of alienation felt by young workers in physically anonymous environments. They might find this back in the small town they…

Interesting. I'm thinking of moving into a city to find the community you speak of. Then again, I've never seen such a thing in America, not in cities, not in small towns, not in suburbs. I doubt it exists.

It definitely exists. Living in an Austin suburb now with most all of those features. It was even more so as a kid in Utah, but it was much more intertwined with the locally dominant religious group, so would be harder to replicate more generally.

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Post by mnm1 »

mrkstu wrote: post #217
mnm1 wrote: post #172

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Interesting. I'm thinking of moving into a city to find the community you speak of. Then again, I've never seen such a thing in America, not in cities, not in small towns, not in suburbs. I doubt it exists.

It definitely exists. Living in an Austin suburb now with most all of those features. It was even more so as a kid in Utah, but it was much more intertwined with the locally dominant religious group, so would be harder to replicate more generally.

I should have said, I doubt it exists for non-religious people. America's well known for its cults.

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Post by jakemal »

josuepeq wrote: post #148
always_left wrote: post #103

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As someone who does enjoy the Bay Area, it's saddening that as soon as work doesn't require commute, there's no draw. Which I'm sure is the same for many. Place is not for everyone, but I picked the Bay Area because I do enjoy it.

This. I don’t live in the Bay Area because I want to work in tech... I work in tech because I want to live in the Bay Area, and my skill set of technical knowledge aligned with tech pretty nicely. In San Francisco, when the pandemic ends and everything starts actually getting back to normal, we don’t have to worry about if the weather will be nice that month. We can pick back up where we left off. I don’t have to cra…

I just moved from Chicago to San Francisco last weekend and can definitely relate. I had such anxiety as I was locked inside watching the few months where it's enjoyable to be outside pass by. Even without the pandemic, I always felt such a need to go non-stop all summer because I knew the warm days were limited and it got exhausting. There are a number of things that I am going to miss about Chicago, but I really appreciate the fact that I'll be able to enjoy outdoor activities here year-round.

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Post by wikibob »

vladvasiliu wrote: post #189
rubyn00bie wrote: post #123

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Just wanted to touch on some of what you said, as I took a year to recoup from burnout in a fairly small-sized town... Saving money, and having "time" are great, but at least for me the people in small towns live very different lives. The pace is slow and it's easy to become complacent. Compounding that is by not following the pace of life there, you're going against the grain and it will cause friction in your life.…

I get what both you and GP are saying, but isn't there some middle ground? I was thinking of something along the same lines and was fearing pretty much the points you have raised. However, I'm currently living in Paris, France. So in this particular situation, instead of moving to some small town in the middle of nowhere, I could move to some town in the suburbs. That would be far enough for it to be much quieter and…

Not really no. Anywhere close enough to commute to a tech hub, is very expensive, because everyone had the same idea.
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