I'm 29, live in the Bay Area, and recently moved back to my parents place. At first I was embarrassed, but while running around the neighborhood I keep bumping into old high school and college classmates who did the same thing in order to save money. Like you said there's nothing to do anyway since everything fun is closed. I'm also saving about $2500 per month (more or less) and hanging out with my family is nice. H…
I don't understand this forced stigma. You do you man. I'm sure your parents are thrilled. And there's nothing like reconnecting with old friends in familiar places.
Kind of. Live in a big city, but have in-laws an hour and a half away.
We go out there on the weekends, and occasionally for a week or more while her parents are on vacation or otherwise out of the house. We can both work remotely, so it's mostly how much we feel like being in rural Canada. We're in a great location downtown, but it's moot when you're unable to go to anything nearby.
Her folks live on a forested acreage, and we can do long walks with their dogs, go for bike rides, etc. They are in the city at least once a week anyway for work and other obligations, so it's not like I'm exposing them to stuff they're not already getting... But it's definitely a good change of pace.
Sacramento. Totally undervalued. No one seems to see this!
What’s so good about Sacramento?
State capital -- largest state in the US, by far; too -- plus a university nearby (UC Davis is "nearby" as in not too far, but not smack in town); California weather, and about an hour and a half drive to the bay area (traffic permitting, lol), so you could do a once a week/few times a month commute to SV-type gigs but stay remote.
I never left. I lived ~3000 feet from the hospital where I was born for most of my life. I currently live 10 miles from my birth place. I am you could say a very provincial person. I love New Hampshire, even if it does not love me. As a web dev I've eschewed some opportunities in order to stay here, where I'm in a sort of professional solitary confinement. It is hard to know if its been the right move (professionally…
I never left. I lived ~3000 feet from the hospital where I was born for most of my life. I currently live 10 miles from my birth place. I am you could say a very provincial person. I love New Hampshire, even if it does not love me. As a web dev I've eschewed some opportunities in order to stay here, where I'm in a sort of professional solitary confinement. It is hard to know if its been the right move (professionally…
I am a 30-year-old female who lives with my 70-year-old, widowed Mom in California. She's not doing great financially and is sick, so I help her a lot, and provide company as she gets pretty lonely. Been protecting her a lot from going out too much since the pandemic started, so that's sort of worked out. I'm not sure if those of you who say it limits dating options are men, but for me, my options haven't been limited at all. And in the past few months, I have noticed a lot of men I've spoken to on dating apps are back at home. I have continued to talk to them and don't think anything of it. I get it -- it's a pandemic, it's smart to save money, and honestly our parents could do with the help right now. Helping them means they don't need to go out as much, reducing their risk. So if you're a man worried about this, which I suspect some of you are, don't! The only issues: 1) sometimes I fear my Mom has become too dependent on me for social needs and what not, and it can be a lot. But this is something I am trying to work on. 2) the stigma I face weirdly is when I read threads like this lol and read people calling people like me "losers." It does make me feel pretty badly about myself, irrationally so. But normally when I tell people in real life about my situation, nobody really cares that much. Some people say it's wonderful my Mom has me. I think to make this work, be of value to your parents, whether that's helping them financially or just being a social support. Just make sure it stays healthy, and it should be fine.
My NYC lease got renewed in Feb just before all of this. If I was on the summer cycle I’d be moving to the burbs. Edit: landlord said they’d consider letting me out for 2-3 months of rent paid as a fee. That’s 7-10k.
Darn, bad timing. Mine's up in August. I tried to get out but they said unless I lost my job I can't.
Pretty much decided not going to renew. Just doesn't make sense.
Biggest downside is going from unlimited high quality dating options to basically none. But whatever.
I am a 30-year-old female who lives with my 70-year-old, widowed Mom in California. She's not doing great financially and is sick, so I help her a lot, and provide company as she gets pretty lonely. Been protecting her a lot from going out too much since the pandemic started, so that's sort of worked out. I'm not sure if those of you who say it limits dating options are men, but for me, my options haven't been limite…
Yeah good point. I just don't want to be chatting digitally with somebody for so long... it's kind of a waste of time for both parties, but esp for a guy.
Biggest concern is bringing it back to my parents accidentally. Do you go on dates or just chat online?
Nice. Yeah honestly once you get a solid few months in the city and do all that jazz, it's just more of the same. End of the day you need to find your own ways of being entertained and growing... sounds like your location gives you that.
Nice. Same for me on the mom cooking lol. It really is next level. Did you move out of NYC?
I did the same thing. Food is amazing. I was eating my own food (not terrible!) and takeout for months in NYC before coming back home a few weeks ago. Also, I have 3x as much living space, tons of open green space to run in, and people to talk to (all while saving > $2k/month). Many have suffered tremendously during this pandemic so I'm very blessed to be so lucky.
Yeah seriously. What do you think are the downsides for moving home? Do you have a gf?