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Re: Ask HN: Have any of you moved back home to save money?

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Post by Markoff »

no, since I own my apartment, currently saving for second one (could already buy at least another 2-3 apts in my hometown with what I have), the monthly savings would be negligible, while quality of life would be significantly lowered especially for my children

I mean if you own apartment what you will save, the rest of your expenses is almost same anywhere you move, the difference in service prices is negligible

though we stayed at father's place like a year with child after moving back to Europe while looking for apartment and doing paperwork, once the apartment was ready we moved out immediately

Re: Ask HN: Have any of you moved back home to save money?

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Post by dejv »

I did that 7 years ago. I was 28 years old and by that time spent all of my adult life chasing startups (both my own and helping others) without much to show for.

After living abroad (London, Berlin, Kuala Lumpur) I got back to small village of 1500 in the middle of nowhere, worked remotely and also bought some land to farm.

It was a big change to be back in place where I never fit in as a child (and escaped as soon as I could at the age of 15) and where I still struggle with small town mentality till this day. But it was also much needed break that gave me opportunity to not work that much, meet people whom live doesn't revolve around startups and after all I see it as a positive life event.

I've lasted there for 9 months or so and then moved to a city nearby, where I still live till this day. I am back in tech 4 days a week and then coming to my farm for two days a week. I would say my "sabbatical" helped me build new foundations of my current life.

Re: Ask HN: Have any of you moved back home to save money?

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Post by Markoff »

kazen44 wrote: post #121
bobbydreamer wrote: post #87

:) It gives me a smile and good feeling to read below comments. Seeing americans living indians life. Living at parents home, good old moms cooking and she's complaining about dad to you while cooking.

as someone not from the US, The american mindset of moving out at 18 seems bizarre to me. (also, moving halfway across a continent aswell). Most people in my country don't move out of their parents homes until their mid twenties (usually after university/military duty). Also, it might be my ignorance of american culture. But to me it seems america lacks a certain sense of regional culture that exists in most other pl…

nothing bizarre even in Europe, I am yet to see teenager going to university who would want to stay living with parents supervision, everyone prefers dorm or shared apartment

if people return back to parents after university it's not really their choice, but financial decision, although I don't see many people returning even after graduation, rather take mortgage or share apartment once you enjoy freedom away from parents

personally my parents (mother) moved away from me when I was like 19 :-) then when she moved back I moved out, although I think the apartment in hometown was even for some time empty, nobody interested to keep living there

Re: Ask HN: Have any of you moved back home to save money?

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Post by bashwizard »

ARandomerDude wrote: post #68
purplezooey wrote: post #59

Depends on your age a little, at 20 OK, 30 mostly OK, at 40, hmm.

More like 20 - OK 25 - hmm 28 - grow up

Where I'm from it's more like:

20 - Nah

25 - WTF are you serious?

30 - Hey, look at this loser over here!

Re: Ask HN: Have any of you moved back home to save money?

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Post by Kliment »

spoiledtechie wrote: post #136
kamyarg wrote: post #106

This is maybe a bit too personal, but unfortunately I am not allowed to leave my country if I go back because of my mandatory military duty, the one which I do not plan to waste 2 years of my life on. I miss my family and the city in general, our orchard and the foodporn-quality fruits such as peaches with skin that peels just like butter, sometimes I just question if it is all worth it. And probably is, but it feels…

That country probably gave you the opportunity you have now. You might not think its worth 2 years, but the country does and everyone else in that country also did. You should really think about going back and serving a country which gave you opportunities.

No. Fuck conscription. It's just a modern form of time-limited slavery, with indoctrination and abuse on top. It has no place in the modern world. I totally support people who flee a country to escape it.

Re: Ask HN: Have any of you moved back home to save money?

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Post by reacharavindh »

ethbro wrote: post #158
rubyn00bie wrote: post #123

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Just wanted to touch on some of what you said, as I took a year to recoup from burnout in a fairly small-sized town... Saving money, and having "time" are great, but at least for me the people in small towns live very different lives. The pace is slow and it's easy to become complacent. Compounding that is by not following the pace of life there, you're going against the grain and it will cause friction in your life.…

The hollowing out of small town America by Amazon & Walmart is sad to see. You can talk all you want about free market cheaper prices raising all boats, but it doesn't jive with profits circulating within a community vs being shipped back to shareholders. Here but for the missed middle ground where profits were retained locally while leveraging an efficient, free market supply chain.

It is sad indeed. A lot of character, creativity, and innovation goes with going big scale with Amazon, Walmart and co.

However, thinking a little below the surface about it, it was also inevitable. If not Amazon, someone else is going to leverage the e-commerce scale and profit from it. I see it more like the transition from CDs/DVDs to streaming media. Sure, local video stores provided community, good exploring opportunity to look at movies that may not be in your bubble, kept profits locally etc. but it was inevitable when a more efficient means comes along.

With that said, small towns will be forced to innovate yet again and do things that are actually needed and profitable to thrive. Shopping is lost to the big guys already. May be there is something else that is better done locally. Coffee shops, co-working spaces, fitness clubs, skills training centers, workshops, hobby development places etc.

Re: Ask HN: Have any of you moved back home to save money?

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Post by kamyarg »

frosted-flakes wrote: post #164
kamyarg wrote: post #106

This is maybe a bit too personal, but unfortunately I am not allowed to leave my country if I go back because of my mandatory military duty, the one which I do not plan to waste 2 years of my life on. I miss my family and the city in general, our orchard and the foodporn-quality fruits such as peaches with skin that peels just like butter, sometimes I just question if it is all worth it. And probably is, but it feels…

Does that mean you're never going back? I would find it difficult to never see my family again.

My siblings live abroad also, and we usually gather in summer vacations every 1-2 years somewhere with my parents. Still not as much as I would want to see them though.

I hope I will be able to go back sometime, unfortunately that time is not clear though.

Re: Ask HN: Have any of you moved back home to save money?

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Post by p1esk »

beamatronic wrote: post #183
_dwt wrote: post #127

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Is it possible that there are places in the United States which are neither the Bay Area, nor NYC, nor Oklahoma? Surely at least some residents of these places, if they exist, might in fact dispute the broad-spectrum superiority of our most culturally legible cities. Some of these hypothetical humans might even work more than 100 hours a week, perhaps even outdoors!

Sacramento. Totally undervalued. No one seems to see this!

What’s so good about Sacramento?

Re: Ask HN: Have any of you moved back home to save money?

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Post by alltakendamned »

throw51319 wrote: post #50
thirteenfingers wrote: post #46

There's no shame in moving back in with your parents, as long as they and you get along, and as long as you keep making something of yourself. I lived with my parents for seven and a half years after getting my bachelor's degree. The first two and half of those years I did music freelance, after which I landed my current full-time job in IT (but I've kept up the music too). I saved up a bunch and then a few months ag…

I'm being very strict with doing worthwhile things and not lounging around. I feel like it is almost more of a growth-phase than if I stayed in the city. In the city there are so many stimuli to distract you perpetually... food, raves, dates, "networking" etc. Now at home I can channel past experiences in solitude and learn, create, etc. Of course the downside is there's no dating at all. So essentially will go celib…

Close to 40 here. Have these experiences, you'll regret it later if you don't. There will be plenty of solitude later.

Re: Ask HN: Have any of you moved back home to save money?

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Post by simonsarris »

I never left. I lived ~3000 feet from the hospital where I was born for most of my life. I currently live 10 miles from my birth place. I am you could say a very provincial person. I love New Hampshire, even if it does not love me.

As a web dev I've eschewed some opportunities in order to stay here, where I'm in a sort of professional solitary confinement. It is hard to know if its been the right move (professionally, intellectually, etc) because the tradeoffs are not at all linear. So I don't know if I've ever "saved money" but I certainly don't have to make the same tradeoffs. (I wake up with the sun and a rooster, I have lots of space all to myself and my family, there is no crime to speak of, etc. But it's not "fun" like NYC is fun, I am sure).

Such professional solitary confinement makes me very, very grateful for Twitter and Hacker News.

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