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> If I'm having a discussion with people in real life I decide what I accept or not, there's no third party that decides for me what is right. Yes, and that works fine because there's no platform there, just a 1 on 1 or small group conversation. You can still easily replicate this, unmoderated, with email or various messaging apps. Once you can talk to potentially hundreds or thousands of people at once, once there's…
It works because I decide. There's no intrinsical limitation on the number of participants Don't you like what a user says? You can ignore them Don't you like what some instance does, you can block it. Any platform that is popular has an editorial board and doesn't want you to say things they don't like. Simple as that. Newspaper had no comments sections because it's silly to comment the news, they already decide wha…
This only works for small communities. You can't feasibly block the literally thousands of trolls and petty assholes that are posting on Reddit every day without that task consuming all your time. Multiply that by every single user having to do it personally and it gets even sillier.
There's a reason basically every popular platform is moderated on some level, and it's not because of some grand meta-moderator conspiracy.
Moderation is near-universally used because it works. Non-moderating doesn't work for conversations that eclipse some size. Disliking how moderators behave doesn't change that.