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Reflections on Being a Female Founder

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Re: Reflections on Being a Female Founder

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Tracy was the best CEO I ever worked for. Hands down. She listened to everyone and made PlanGrid a place where everyone was empowered to make change. Her passion to solve problems was obvious and raw. She attracted people who were similarly passionate. I knew she had it harder than others when I saw one of our own VC's caller her a "little girl" while doing a fireside chat with her at PlanGrid. In spite of it all she…

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Re: Reflections on Being a Female Founder

#42

I wish there were a clear bad guy here, but most of the hardship seems to have been caused by more diffuse social pressures. What could we have done as an industry to improve the author's experience? Maybe just having more female founders around in general (by removing any barriers) would make some of these circumstances more commonplace.

Many times in the article she perceive male founders as stoic machines that regardless of health or mental state would go to work and operate as if nothing is wrong, and then goes to copy that. That is a stereotype that is hurting both men and women, and removing that would resolve a lot of the hardship.

Re: Reflections on Being a Female Founder

#43

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Is the inequality between men and women, or between people on the inside who incidentally are mostly men, and people on the outside who are also mostly men but include a relatively higher fraction of women?

Are you aware of how many idiots have millions in funding for a dating app a chat app a blockchain or ai company that is just a knockoff of others with no working MVP and now many of those young male founders have thrown expensive parties rented expensive cars then bankrupted the company and chalked it up to a "downturn in the economy"? If a woman did this, she would be nailed to the cross in silicon valley for being…

How do people get funding for nothing-apps? If anything that's evidence that being on the inside is what matters.

(P.S. You forgot to check the username, I'm not the parent commenter.)

Re: Reflections on Being a Female Founder

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Indeed, so I guess I'll get a job or maybe just suicide because what's the point. I don't really feel like working hard so someone else can get rich off my labour anymore.

You're extremely selfish. I met the woman who wrote this article and was on a panel with her once five years ago and she was incredible and positive and never talked about her gender once. She actually made a super valuable company sold it and gave birth to a child during all of this and you are on here talking about how sad your life is because you acknowledge you're unwilling to have a cofounder because you're so u…

For sure this thread was a poor place to change the subject in that way and the commenter should not have started a flamewar (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=23605490). But crossing into personal attack is also a big step in the wrong direction, and also toxic. Please don't do that on HN, regardless of how wrong another user is or you feel they are. It only contributes to destroying this place further. There's also something to be said about not responding to a mention of suicide by aggressively hammering a person.

Would you mind reviewing https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and sticking to the rules when posting here? We'd be grateful. Note the most important one: Be kind.

Re: Reflections on Being a Female Founder

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post #42

I wish there were a clear bad guy here, but most of the hardship seems to have been caused by more diffuse social pressures. What could we have done as an industry to improve the author's experience? Maybe just having more female founders around in general (by removing any barriers) would make some of these circumstances more commonplace.

Many times in the article she perceive male founders as stoic machines that regardless of health or mental state would go to work and operate as if nothing is wrong, and then goes to copy that. That is a stereotype that is hurting both men and women, and removing that would resolve a lot of the hardship.

So if I want to push myself in pursuit of my dreams, I need to sandbag because working hard sets bad precedent for others?

Edit: why is this flagged? Is it not a valid point? If you claim that there is a problem in tech because men are stoic and work long hours even during times of personal hardship, you're effectively shaming these men for working too hard. This is something that needs to be discussed before you start setting policy.

Re: Reflections on Being a Female Founder

#46

I think if I were female, I'd be a more successful founder. As a white male, I found that no investors were even willing to talk to me in spite of being an early employee at some great startups including Airbnb. I applied (and interviewed) at YC multiple times and was rejected for mostly BS reasons, which I think were just a cover for "we don't like you". I get it, I'm not a likable person, it's something I have to l…

I'm sure many of us can empathize with your struggles, but starting a gender flamewar is not a valid way to express them on Hacker News, so please don't do that.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Re: Reflections on Being a Female Founder

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post #42

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Many times in the article she perceive male founders as stoic machines that regardless of health or mental state would go to work and operate as if nothing is wrong, and then goes to copy that. That is a stereotype that is hurting both men and women, and removing that would resolve a lot of the hardship.

So if I want to push myself in pursuit of my dreams, I need to sandbag because working hard sets bad precedent for others? Edit: why is this flagged? Is it not a valid point? If you claim that there is a problem in tech because men are stoic and work long hours even during times of personal hardship, you're effectively shaming these men for working too hard. This is something that needs to be discussed before you sta…

Treat it as a marathon, not a sprint. Making time for your mental health is not a cultural priority, and that results in a high rate of burnout across the industry. I think I'd have made it a lot further in my career, and faster, if I'd avoided that in my 20s.

Re: Reflections on Being a Female Founder

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post #42

I wish there were a clear bad guy here, but most of the hardship seems to have been caused by more diffuse social pressures. What could we have done as an industry to improve the author's experience? Maybe just having more female founders around in general (by removing any barriers) would make some of these circumstances more commonplace.

Many times in the article she perceive male founders as stoic machines that regardless of health or mental state would go to work and operate as if nothing is wrong, and then goes to copy that. That is a stereotype that is hurting both men and women, and removing that would resolve a lot of the hardship.

Postmortems often happen because someone ignored a pain point prior to the failure, rather than taking stock and doing some preventative work.

The general pattern of pretending everything is ok is one of my least favorite things about tech culture. I was going to say 'tech people' but it's clear that there are people who don't like this pattern either. They tend to self-identify (sometimes privately) when I buck the trend and do something sane instead.

Re: Reflections on Being a Female Founder

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I first truly understood how different it was for women when a friend came home from an investor pitch and casually complained to another woman we lived with that it had been another investor more interested in a date than an investment. It was then that I found out it was common to have potential investors take female founders out for dinner, ostensibly to talk over the potential investment but in reality as an attempt to sleep with them. These women felt that they couldn't really tell anyone about it because they didn't want to poison the well of potential investment, so they just went on fundraising and being harassed.

I don't know if things have changed much - it's been six years since I was out there, but from reading this I think it's likely continuing on just the same as it was then.

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