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Over the study period, pornography became really easy to obtain. Isn't that the cause ? Men (we) no longer need to groom themselves, dress up, spend money on dates and deal with all the complications of relationships. They (we) now have instant simulation within a few taps on their phones.
> Use of pornographic material was associated with a lower likelihood of sexual inactivity among both men and women.
This is a widespread societal change that I think most people are completely unaware of. The majority of women are sleeping with the top 10% of men, sometimes only the top 3-5%, with the rest barely getting any at all. the sexual revolution was never about free love or sexual freedom, it was about womens rights to sleep with the few men they are all attracted to. The lower 80% of men instead saw their sexual freedom…
I agree that there are larger societal changes at play, but saying this isn't strictly more free than before isn't painting the picture honestly.
They buried the lede here. > Sexual activity was largely unchanged among unmarried women, along with no notable decline among gay men, researchers reported. Basically sex is following the pattern of wealth. Men as a group aren't having less sex, instead there's a winner take all effect where a small number of men are having a lot of sex with a lot of women while a large number of men are having little to no sex. It'l…
Incels call this "hypergamy": https://incels.wiki/images/thumb/c/c8/C57f84720fff59cf295616... Although misogynistic incels are obviously abhorrent, I believe that they're probably right in their assessment of their own social status. It just seems like rather than trying to better themselves, they turn it into outward hatred. I've also seen calls by right-wing thought leaders for "enforced monogamy," which obviously…
Is it a problem? People don't need to be having sex. As long as people are happy.
I think you answered your own question. If not, go visit a forum for incels and see how happy they are.
Dating any of these would be profoundly bad idea. It is better for a woman to be alone then to be with someone who has opinions of incel.
Before the internet women didn't get hit on by thousands of men before their 21st birthday. Now that they do, they can be more picky in choosing partners, so fewer (hopefully higher quality) men are having sex.
They buried the lede here. > Sexual activity was largely unchanged among unmarried women, along with no notable decline among gay men, researchers reported. Basically sex is following the pattern of wealth. Men as a group aren't having less sex, instead there's a winner take all effect where a small number of men are having a lot of sex with a lot of women while a large number of men are having little to no sex. It'l…
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I think the modern idea isn't that there's no longer a space for dating and sexual encounters; it's that this space isn't work. Work is for work, not finding a wife or mistress or staring at breasts. The club and dating apps is where you go for that. If you and someone you work with both swipe right, then it's fair game. But there's an affirmative, out of work step to getting there.
Buy into a closed, preferential application platform in order to find a mate, or else restrict yourself to people who would spend time at a club? With a system that restrictive and bar-lowering, it’s little wonder people aren’t having much luck.
The core here is that you don't mix sexual propositions and the (even potential future) power relationships inherent with work for pay.
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I think this is exactly right. Apps like Tinder that normalized online "dating" (before the apps it was much less common among younger people) have allowed the "apex predator" men with good jobs/looks/personalities to have sex on demand with virtually unlimited numbers of women. This has also been made possible because a lot more women are now willing to be in non-exclusive sexual relationships at the beginning when…
It's not really a powder keg because we really don't suffer as a society if the excluded men don't get to have kids.
Is it a problem? People don't need to be having sex. As long as people are happy.