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Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century, study shows

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Re: Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century, study shows

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Is it a problem? People don't need to be having sex. As long as people are happy.

I would say it is a problem, given that the average person wants romantic companionship, and usually children at some point. It's hard to get there if you aren't successfully dating.

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They buried the lede here. > Sexual activity was largely unchanged among unmarried women, along with no notable decline among gay men, researchers reported. Basically sex is following the pattern of wealth. Men as a group aren't having less sex, instead there's a winner take all effect where a small number of men are having a lot of sex with a lot of women while a large number of men are having little to no sex. It'l…

> instead there's a winner take all effect where a small number of men are having a lot of sex with a lot of women

If true, I wonder how much of that is due to self-selection by men who aren't having sex. Having once upon a time been lonely and bitter, I know that men often end up in positive feedback loops that strengthen their not having sexual partners - due to the attitudes they develop towards women.

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post #17
post #12

They buried the lede here. > Sexual activity was largely unchanged among unmarried women, along with no notable decline among gay men, researchers reported. Basically sex is following the pattern of wealth. Men as a group aren't having less sex, instead there's a winner take all effect where a small number of men are having a lot of sex with a lot of women while a large number of men are having little to no sex. It'l…

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2018/10/sexual-pa...

Is this true?

Re: Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century, study shows

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They buried the lede here. > Sexual activity was largely unchanged among unmarried women, along with no notable decline among gay men, researchers reported. Basically sex is following the pattern of wealth. Men as a group aren't having less sex, instead there's a winner take all effect where a small number of men are having a lot of sex with a lot of women while a large number of men are having little to no sex. It'l…

I don't have data for this but I believe that legal polygamy is a big contributor to political extremism. Sexual frustration leads to inferiority complexes that result in aggression against the norm.

As an example I see the Middle East where polygamy is not unheard of and the rise of the Islamic State or the Taliban.

Would be interesting if anybody has data on this.

Re: Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century, study shows

#25

Is it a problem? People don't need to be having sex. As long as people are happy.

I think you answered your own question. If not, go visit a forum for incels and see how happy they are.

At the same time, people definitely can be happy without sex - various religious factions have been doing it for ages with vows of celibacy, and today there's a non-negligible "volcel" (voluntarily celibate) movement.

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are we really surprised? last year a woman called me a sexist because i said 'ladies firsr' on the coffee machine. a friend got problems with hr becahse apparently he stared at some titties in the elevator lol. luckily i am married and had my fair share of partners. but nowadays i would be scared as hell to even take the first step in the club. i mean, i might easily become a toxic male sexual predator exposed on soc…

Based on your comment, you probably have some work to do to on how you treat women.

I agree with your assessment, but I do think it would be fair to say that a negative reaction to a man saying "ladies first" is an overreaction. I can't imagine it happens that often, though, but there are exceptions to everything.

Re: Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century, study shows

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post #12

They buried the lede here. > Sexual activity was largely unchanged among unmarried women, along with no notable decline among gay men, researchers reported. Basically sex is following the pattern of wealth. Men as a group aren't having less sex, instead there's a winner take all effect where a small number of men are having a lot of sex with a lot of women while a large number of men are having little to no sex. It'l…

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Dj1iKZrUcAADnHR?format=jpg&name=...

Re: Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century, study shows

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post #14

are we really surprised? last year a woman called me a sexist because i said 'ladies firsr' on the coffee machine. a friend got problems with hr becahse apparently he stared at some titties in the elevator lol. luckily i am married and had my fair share of partners. but nowadays i would be scared as hell to even take the first step in the club. i mean, i might easily become a toxic male sexual predator exposed on soc…

Young man here. "Ladies first" is flat out weird to me, the only time I ever use it is jokingly with my girlfriend, sisters, or close female friends. I'm not sure if I'd go so far as to call it sexist, but it's an odd thing to say for sure.

its a nice gesture. whats the problem? back in Germany, only 10 years ago, women were super happy about it. now i am getting called a sexist.

times change

Re: Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century, study shows

#29

are we really surprised? last year a woman called me a sexist because i said 'ladies firsr' on the coffee machine. a friend got problems with hr becahse apparently he stared at some titties in the elevator lol. luckily i am married and had my fair share of partners. but nowadays i would be scared as hell to even take the first step in the club. i mean, i might easily become a toxic male sexual predator exposed on soc…

I think the cavalier attitude you have towards casual sexism and misogyny are actually part of the problem. I've never been scared of the dating scene because I can control myself and act like a civilized person - that means not being needlessly chauvinist or ogling women's "tits" while in confined spaces.

Grow up. If you get called out for being unprofessional at work, you need to recognize that your lack of professionalism is the problem, not the people who notice it.

Re: Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century, study shows

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post #19

"The survey found that from 2000 to 2018, nearly one in three U.S. men aged 18 to 24 reported no sexual activity in the past year." I'm not sure I understand what they are measuring. This sentence is hard to parse. Did they ask people who were those ages during those years if they had gone an entire year without sex during that period? Did they ask people of that age slowly over the course of those 18 years and recor…

I believe the correct interpretation is:

They ran the study periodically from 2000 to 2018.

At each point, they surveyed groups, of which, one bracket was "men aged 18 to 24".

Within that bracket, one third of those surveyed reported no sexual activity in the past year.

This was roughly consistent over the entire 18 year period.

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