Hacker News Board Hacker News, browsed like a classic message board
Live data from Hacker News

Ask HN: I got bad news about my housemate

news.ycombinator.com

Post reply on HN
Print view View original

11–16 of 16 posts

Re: Ask HN: I got bad news about my housemate

#11

Post by hack_hacker »

minds-matter wrote: post #10

I’m sorry to hear this. You’ll quite likely have lots of questions, and there may well be few answers. In Mental Health First Aid (MHFA), we use the acronym ALGEE in supporting people: - Assess - Listen non judgementally - Give encouragement and support - Encourage professional support - Encourage self-help and other support You can apply this to self-care as well. I’d encourage you to be aware of your feelings and e…

Thanks for your write up. I will definitely check out precessional help if I need to.

Re: Ask HN: I got bad news about my housemate

#12

Post by hack_hacker »

ericol wrote: post #3

As already stated, it's not your fault, and honestly the tip of the iceberg of this problem is that such illnesses are not even considered as such by society at large. My eldest daughter, that is an incredible bright and intelligent person was just where you are early January this year with her partner. I eventually got tired of telling people that he was sick, that he was not to blame for his actions. And even ratio…

Thanks very much. My cyondolesenes to your daughter, hope she is in well place now.

Re: Ask HN: I got bad news about my housemate

#13

Post by minds-matter »

hack_hacker wrote: post #11
minds-matter wrote: post #10

I’m sorry to hear this. You’ll quite likely have lots of questions, and there may well be few answers. In Mental Health First Aid (MHFA), we use the acronym ALGEE in supporting people: - Assess - Listen non judgementally - Give encouragement and support - Encourage professional support - Encourage self-help and other support You can apply this to self-care as well. I’d encourage you to be aware of your feelings and e…

Thanks for your write up. I will definitely check out precessional help if I need to.

You’re welcome.

Re: Ask HN: I got bad news about my housemate

#14

Post by rckoepke »

Nextgrid wrote: post #5

Decoded version (trigger warning, it talks about suicide): > my housemate committed suicide last night :( it’s hard to know why. apparent reason is that he was stressed from working everyday for last 4 years. I guess this a reminder for all of us that we need to look after our mental health and seek help if you are stressed.

I don't feel this is appropriate. For whatever reason, the OP specifically encoded it to bypass text searches of archived pages. Most of the people here can identify and decode base64, or at least OP intended the message for those who could.

I don't understand why OP chose to provide his message this way but I think it's good to respect his wishes here while he's processing the event. He put a certain amount of trust into the community and it's possible that having community members post the plaintext like this would give him additional regret.

Re: Ask HN: I got bad news about my housemate

#15

Post by ericol »

hack_hacker wrote: post #12
ericol wrote: post #3

As already stated, it's not your fault, and honestly the tip of the iceberg of this problem is that such illnesses are not even considered as such by society at large. My eldest daughter, that is an incredible bright and intelligent person was just where you are early January this year with her partner. I eventually got tired of telling people that he was sick, that he was not to blame for his actions. And even ratio…

Thanks very much. My cyondolesenes to your daughter, hope she is in well place now.

Thanks. She's a strong woman as well and, as devastating as these events are she's moving forward with her life, up to the point that she is planning to move to Germany in a few months.

Have a nice day.

Post reply on HN