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Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by adreamingsoul »

whotheffknows wrote: post #219
kstenerud wrote: post #95

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Those aren't deep questions; they're deeply personal questions, and something not appropriate to talk about with complete strangers. I strongly recommend you re-evaluate your question set. Personal questions are dangerous with the wrong kind of person.

I agree. As a woman working as a major minority in STEM as a software developer, and seeing this being advertised on HN means I'll probably be paired with a male if I used it. Not only are these not appropriate, it's the kind of information you could give to a dangerous man to give them all the cards to know your deepest weaknesses and manipulate you. That trust has to be earned, and it turns vulnerable people into p…

Thank you for sharing your perspective.

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by O_H_E »

feross wrote: post #42
starpilot wrote: post #33

Please tell me one of the topics is abortion. Always a good icebreaker. Virus cafe? Seriously, will my computer catch something using this site?

No abortion questions, but I do have a 3-4 absurd questions in rotation, just to spice things up :) - Would you rather have someone secretly give you LSD on a random day once every 6 months or make everyone in the world take LSD all at the same time once every 5 years? - Would you rather have taste buds on your butthole or poop through your mouth? - Would you rather have sex with Donald Trump in secret, or not have s…

First one is really nice, second is fine.

Are you creating these yourself or have some source?

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by woodrowbarlow »

dhimes wrote: post #137
imtringued wrote: post #122

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> But you should never give the correct answer for password recovery. Exactly. You're supposed to use your password manager to generate a second password and use that as your answer. I know this sounds stupid but it is the only way to stay safe.

The only problem with this is if you have to read it to someone live. Otherwise, yes!

i've heard stories of call centers accepting "oh, i don't remember, i just typed a bunch of random letters and numbers" as confirmation over the phone.

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by feross »

whotheffknows wrote: post #219
kstenerud wrote: post #95

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Those aren't deep questions; they're deeply personal questions, and something not appropriate to talk about with complete strangers. I strongly recommend you re-evaluate your question set. Personal questions are dangerous with the wrong kind of person.

I agree. As a woman working as a major minority in STEM as a software developer, and seeing this being advertised on HN means I'll probably be paired with a male if I used it. Not only are these not appropriate, it's the kind of information you could give to a dangerous man to give them all the cards to know your deepest weaknesses and manipulate you. That trust has to be earned, and it turns vulnerable people into p…

Thanks for sharing your opinion. I think you raise a great point that women are more likely to be targets of harassment than men on the internet. I feel strongly that women should feel safe on the internet.

If you try the app right now, you'll find many women from Saudi Arabia currently using it (a Saudi celebrity tweeted it yesterday). I noticed several women who were using the app for hours but hiding their camera with a finger. Based on that user behavior, I'm building an audio-only option so women who feel the way you do will hopefully feel more comfortable.

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by uberzergling »

whotheffknows wrote: post #219
kstenerud wrote: post #95

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Those aren't deep questions; they're deeply personal questions, and something not appropriate to talk about with complete strangers. I strongly recommend you re-evaluate your question set. Personal questions are dangerous with the wrong kind of person.

I agree. As a woman working as a major minority in STEM as a software developer, and seeing this being advertised on HN means I'll probably be paired with a male if I used it. Not only are these not appropriate, it's the kind of information you could give to a dangerous man to give them all the cards to know your deepest weaknesses and manipulate you. That trust has to be earned, and it turns vulnerable people into p…

"seeing this being advertised on HN means I'll probably be paired with a male if I used it."

This feels like sexism to me. Sorry not sorry for calling you on it.

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by [deleted] »

uberzergling wrote: post #227
whotheffknows wrote: post #219

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I agree. As a woman working as a major minority in STEM as a software developer, and seeing this being advertised on HN means I'll probably be paired with a male if I used it. Not only are these not appropriate, it's the kind of information you could give to a dangerous man to give them all the cards to know your deepest weaknesses and manipulate you. That trust has to be earned, and it turns vulnerable people into p…

"seeing this being advertised on HN means I'll probably be paired with a male if I used it." This feels like sexism to me. Sorry not sorry for calling you on it.

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Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by Exuma »

whotheffknows wrote: post #219
kstenerud wrote: post #95

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Those aren't deep questions; they're deeply personal questions, and something not appropriate to talk about with complete strangers. I strongly recommend you re-evaluate your question set. Personal questions are dangerous with the wrong kind of person.

I agree. As a woman working as a major minority in STEM as a software developer, and seeing this being advertised on HN means I'll probably be paired with a male if I used it. Not only are these not appropriate, it's the kind of information you could give to a dangerous man to give them all the cards to know your deepest weaknesses and manipulate you. That trust has to be earned, and it turns vulnerable people into p…

You sound like you have a lot of fear... it's literally just a chat app. No one is forcing you to use it, no one is forcing you to answer questions. No one is stopping you from joining the app, you get a question you don't like, and you hit quit. Objectively, how does this affect you or reality outside of this awesome thing called choice?

Not to downplay what you're saying, or sound harsh, but people these days certainly are hitting a level of sensitivity that I cannot even fathom.

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