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Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes
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Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes
#182Earlier quoted context omitted.
Well it must have been in your web history, I very much doubt she typed the URL in. You could have been visiting anything and she could have accidentally navigated there. For me, it's a very odd solution to a problem that we have to answer a question before allowing our webcam to be used. I would never set my webcam and mic to be allowed by default, and if I ever give my laptop or device to anyone to search for somet…
To confirm, it’s not allowed by default, it’s set to always ask by default - which was just a case of clicking allow or not. And it most certainly wasn’t in my history. I’d never heard of it before and it’s my work iPad which she doesn’t know the passcode to. No, parenting is hard, especially so right now. Every day is a mix of work, and guilt that the kid of a full time working family isn’t getting everything she ne…
If a child isn't old enough to comprehend and deal with most of the internet, then they should not have access to it or only with someone to teach them.
In my opinion, the web is a tool and should be learned like a powersaw or a drill.
I would just be annoyed if I had to answer 127 * 4 on my phone and would leave the site, because it is a ergonomic hurdle to something that I'm just mildly curious about.
Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes
#183Earlier quoted context omitted.
> I gave my daughter (6) my iPad for ten minutes this morning There's your problem. Just don't do that. But if you can't avoid it, disconnect the internet before you do it.
That’s not the problem though is it. I said I accept my lapse, but such easy access into a world of video sharing should have at least cursory controls for children. My lapse isn’t in question, it’s the many other children around the world who will be shoved in front of a device and forgotten about, and how this site does nothing to protect them. We’re in lockdown, myself and my wife work full time and then some. My…
For what it's worth, as a developer, I would not want to introduce user friction to my site specifically, just to address a more global problem.
Perhaps you would be better off addressing this concern with browser developers.
Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes
#184Earlier quoted context omitted.
> I gave my daughter (6) my iPad for ten minutes this morning There's your problem. Just don't do that. But if you can't avoid it, disconnect the internet before you do it.
That’s not the problem though is it. I said I accept my lapse, but such easy access into a world of video sharing should have at least cursory controls for children. My lapse isn’t in question, it’s the many other children around the world who will be shoved in front of a device and forgotten about, and how this site does nothing to protect them. We’re in lockdown, myself and my wife work full time and then some. My…
You've accepted your lapse, but you don't seem to accept any further responsibility to stop this from happening in the future. Instead, you're putting this responsibility on countless websites that YOU think are inappropriate for your daughter. The burden is on you. Own it.
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#185Don’t want to sully the conversation here, but I want to raise an important point - so @feross, please stick with it. I gave my daughter (6) my iPad for ten minutes this morning and put her on a site to draw minecraft skins. I took a call and took my eyes off the device (but not daughter) for about five minutes while I paced around the room. When I sat back next to her, she somehow ended up on virus Café and was in a…
I am 40, my first access to a computer was when i was about 4 maybe? I wrote my first program (10 print "hello", 20 goto 10) at 6.. IMHO this early introduction massively impacted my ability to understand tech and assimilate information around me. While i think that monitoring usage of devices is important, the idea of not giving a 6yo an ipad or similar when in all likelihood their familiarity with these concepts wi…
Devices were a lot safer for us as kids when they weren't connected to the aggressive messy warzone that is the modern internet.
Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes
#186Don’t want to sully the conversation here, but I want to raise an important point - so @feross, please stick with it. I gave my daughter (6) my iPad for ten minutes this morning and put her on a site to draw minecraft skins. I took a call and took my eyes off the device (but not daughter) for about five minutes while I paced around the room. When I sat back next to her, she somehow ended up on virus Café and was in a…
Don't give your young child an Internet-connected device with microphone and camera capability. Just, don't.
Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes
#187Earlier quoted context omitted.
> Here are a few samples: These seem like extremely controversial, divisive topics. Not the kind of thing to bring up with someone you don’t know well, and the opposite of a good way to make a friend.
I suppose the thought was: if two can speak about such a topic, they'll get along well. No idea if that was the case, nor about its merit.
If you want to have "deep" conversations with a complete stranger without even getting an introduction first, then you're really not interested in a conversation, you're just interested in presenting.
Which is fine, just starting a YouTube channel is a better (and more honest) way to accomplish it.
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#188Gives out pretty negative feelings to me. A sad emojii with a face mask is pretty depressing, and even worse if you see the mask as political. Black lives matter is destroying cities across the USA. I'm sure it's just me, but I wonder if anyone else sees this?
Sorry that you don't like it. Can't please everyone. Lots of people have told me they've had fun meeting new people from around the world. Regarding the hashtag, I put it there because I'm against police brutality and I'm horrified by what the police are doing. Looters should be arrested and prosecuted, for sure. But police have a monopoly on the use of violence and must be held to a higher standard.
Anti-brutality is unifying, racial victimhood is controversial. For effectiveness focus on the former, for tribal signaling focus on the latter.
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#189Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes
#190Hey folks! I built Virus Cafe to help you make a friend in 2 minutes! My goal is to help people stuck indoors because of COVID-19 (or police curfews) to make meaningful connections with strangers. Here's how it works: 1. You are matched with a random partner for a video chat 2. You're given a deep question to discuss. You have 2 minutes! 3. The only rule is: no small talk! Small talk is the worst and I'm on a mission…
Did you consider these questions? https://www.gwern.net/docs/psychology/okcupid/thebestquestio... These questions are selected as particularly relevant to dating while being innocuous. Even if Virus Cafe is not a dating site but I guess they can still be great conversation starters. They are: Proxy for "Will my date have sex on the first date?" - Do you like the taste of beer? Proxy for "Do my date and I have long-te…
I wonder what spelling and grammar mistakes have to do with religiosity!